Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
If that is true, Locke, what are you doing on alonelylife.com?
Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
lonelydoc said:Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
If that is true, Locke, what are you doing on alonelylife.com?
lonelydoc said:Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
If that is true, Locke, what are you doing on alonelylife.com?
lonelydoc said:Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
If that is true, Locke, what are you doing on alonelylife.com?
VanillaCreme said:lonelydoc said:Locke said:And guess what? I'm doing fine. I have a good life and a amazing girlfriend.
If that is true, Locke, what are you doing on alonelylife.com?
I'm not lonely, yet on here. You don't know the reasons why people are here, so don't assume you do. Some are here to offer their advice, and to talk to those who need it. Some are here to gain some insight on issues and problems. Even if one were lonely before and is no longer, that doesn't mean they have to stop coming here.
lonelydoc said:I'm here because I'm lonely. I'm also a beta male. And it doesn't matter to me because I have a value that seems to be dying in the larger world, and in this forum as well: honesty.
lonelydoc said:I'm here because I'm lonely. I'm also a beta male. And it doesn't matter to me because I have a value that seems to be dying in the larger world, and in this forum as well: honesty.
lonelydoc said:I'm here because I'm lonely. I'm also a beta male. And it doesn't matter to me because I have a value that seems to be dying in the larger world, and in this forum as well: honesty.
Locke said:If you think of yourself as a "beta male", then that's what you'll be. You define who you are, whether you want to admit it or not. Allowing anyone else to define you, whether it be a list on the internet or any person besides you, is a mistake. You are damaging your self-esteem by calling yourself "beta". The emotional damage that this is causing you will be worse than any outside source of emotional turmoil. If you call yourself a loser, or "beta" or whatever else, that's how other people will see you.
TheSkaFish said:How can I really believe I'm great, when people still treat me like a "beta"? I don't want to be one. I don't even think of myself as one. Yet I still get regarded like one anyway.
Rosebolt said:Only you need to believe. If you truly believe, the rest will come.
Rosebolt said:TheSkaFish said:How can I really believe I'm great, when people still treat me like a "beta"? I don't want to be one. I don't even think of myself as one. Yet I still get regarded like one anyway.
Only you need to believe. If you truly believe, the rest will come.
Locke said:Yeah, what Rosebolt said. Believe in yourself.
And I hope you (and every other follower of the alpha/beta philosophy here) consider dropping this alpha/beta thing completely. It has done nothing but cause you pain, you just admitted as much. Why think that way when it only hurts you? Wanting to be an "alpha" makes no sense: You are still aspiring to be someone else's ideal, and you will never accomplish that. People will always want more from you, always, and the constant thought that you are not good enough will destroy you.
To put it in simple terms: Who gives a **** what other people think! True confidence can only come from within you. There is no standard except that which you set for yourself.
If anyone wants to think that I'm full of crap, that's fine. But a little over a year ago I couldn't leave my house because I was so afraid of people and what they thought of me. I was agoraphobic for 3 years. I even wrote a thread asking if I should change my personality, lol. People here told me what I'm telling you, and I listened. I'm free now. I don't care what others think of me. I still fight anxiety at times, but I'm free and happy. It feels good. =)
TheSkaFish said:It's not that I think you're full of crap. I don't like the alpha/beta system either. It's just that I can't take the "who cares" approach to life, because I do care what I get.
TheSkaFish said:I want to be an alpha so that I can win some of the limited amount of good things away from the alphas, and then I want to be able to defend what I have against their predation.
Locke said:There is no such thing as an alpha. You do not fit into a category, you are unique. Every time you allow yourself be labeled, you degrade who you are and what you want out of life. You're worth more than that.
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