alwaysreading@home
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Whenever I get on this site I seem to get sad just looking at the no messages under my name....
9006 said:Do you mean PM's? I'm not sure if you message anyone but it's not something that will just happen, sometimes you gotta reach out. I wouldn't take it personally, though.
Goblin said:One of the key differences between other people and myself is that I connect intellectually first, and then maybe experience emotion or some interest in someone else's life. I've enjoyed befriending people I've had good discussions with before on things like evocative music, Epicureanism, humanity's relation to nature, etc,
Solivagant said:^ I'm the same way by nature, though I try to stick with conversations even if they don't interest me. I haven't met many people interested in intellectual discussion, so I guess to adapt I have worked on connecting with people through relational discussion (i.e. common experiences).
Goblin said:I've tried to adapt (and it seems to be very common), but it's not something that works for me. I spend time and energy, and I gain nothing in return because it doesn't entertain me, make me feel connected, or add to my life in any way. Talking to someone about what kind of pets we like without delving deeper, sharing bigger stories, discovering something new, or debating because they'd be put off or don't want to engage in it feels the same as talking to no one. It's just exchanging noise, and I already have radio for noise.
Goblin said:There are enough people who are also looking to hear and be heard on wacky subjects and long-winded analyses that it's better for everyone if I pass.
alwaysreading@home said:Whenever I get on this site I seem to get sad just looking at the no messages under my name....
dnick said:I haven't been on this forum long, but from my experiences on other websites, yes it does bother me. It seems to reflect how I'm treated anywhere; with indifference. But I'm trying to get used to it.
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