DrFlashman
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I'm 31 and live in the midwest. About 2 or 3 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend (for the second time, but the first breakup was v. brief). I was okay for the first three weeks, but then I started to regret it and have been miserable ever since. The weird thing is, I'm usually not an emotionally needy or lonely person, or didn't think I was. I've always prided myself on being self-sustaining and not needing anyone. I've spent a lot of my life alone, and was fine with that. But it's like she awakened something in me, some need, and now I can't go back to the way I was.
I have friends, I have a job, I have outside interests, I've even gone on a few dates since then, but none of those things can divert me from the fact I miss her and am lonely without her.
What I wonder is: am I just lonely and missing the companionship, the sex, the nice things she used to do for me? Or am I genuinely missing HER? Or is there a difference?
Furthermore, I've made a few feeble attempts to contact her, but she hasn't responded. Once she responded but it was in a way that didn't really lead to a conversation. I feel like she might've already moved on, and that makes me even sadder.
Should I just be a "Man" and let this go? Or should I write to her, call her, etc. and tell her how I feel? I'm really confused and just can't let this go. This is the worst breakup I've ever been through (and I've had a few.)
Any ideas or thoughts?
I have friends, I have a job, I have outside interests, I've even gone on a few dates since then, but none of those things can divert me from the fact I miss her and am lonely without her.
What I wonder is: am I just lonely and missing the companionship, the sex, the nice things she used to do for me? Or am I genuinely missing HER? Or is there a difference?
Furthermore, I've made a few feeble attempts to contact her, but she hasn't responded. Once she responded but it was in a way that didn't really lead to a conversation. I feel like she might've already moved on, and that makes me even sadder.
Should I just be a "Man" and let this go? Or should I write to her, call her, etc. and tell her how I feel? I'm really confused and just can't let this go. This is the worst breakup I've ever been through (and I've had a few.)
Any ideas or thoughts?