https://www.webmd.com/balance/news/20180504/loneliness-rivals-obesity-smoking-as-health-risk
If someone told you that you will never lose any weight, and if you do you will just gain it back, and if you start the weight loss/weight gain regimen that many people get themselves locked into it is actually worse than just maintaining a little extra weight while still exercising now and then? Well, just by playing the odds than that certain someone will be right quite often.
Perhaps they could shorten the negativity to a simpler, "Losing weight is extremely difficult". And they would be right. Very annoying, but right.
Just as annoying for a person who is overweight, imo, are the someones who repeatedly (and by the time one adds them all up...let's just say eternally) tell you that you need to lose weight. As if you had never heard that before!
Same goes for smoking. Same goes for drinking. Same goes for loneliness.
See, there is a pattern of radical sides to all these things. On one side there is the **** it there is no hope. On the other is the fix it folks who can't seem to understand that there are issues that cause these things...it isn't simple.
I get it, both sides are downright annoying.
But one side is actually dangerous. Severe Loneliness is different than deliberate isolation. Some people handle isolation quite well, and actually prefer it. Now there are extremes to everything and too much can be too much. As a severe agoraphobic myself, I can say that though I NEED contact with people...sometimes...I also can get too much of it rather quickly and send myself into a mood to hide out that is very difficult to get out of. That's when I find myself doing things like eating oatmeal for three days as that is all I have left in the house, but I am incapable of a trip to the store.
Moderation at the level one can handle. That's the key.
And here is my concern. I'm seeing posts in this forum where people are suggesting that lonely people just accept isolation and learn to enjoy it. Hey, again, we are all different. I have no problem if someone says, "I have grown to prefer isolation." But I do have an issue with someone saying, "Everyone should isolate themselves."
To me, that is like saying, "It's too hard to quit smoking so don't try! In fact, smoke more!" Or, "Why not eat more! Get fatter! At least you will have the comfort of food before you drop dead!"
I wish I could write this better but maybe one last try. When giving advice, first, do no harm.
If someone told you that you will never lose any weight, and if you do you will just gain it back, and if you start the weight loss/weight gain regimen that many people get themselves locked into it is actually worse than just maintaining a little extra weight while still exercising now and then? Well, just by playing the odds than that certain someone will be right quite often.
Perhaps they could shorten the negativity to a simpler, "Losing weight is extremely difficult". And they would be right. Very annoying, but right.
Just as annoying for a person who is overweight, imo, are the someones who repeatedly (and by the time one adds them all up...let's just say eternally) tell you that you need to lose weight. As if you had never heard that before!
Same goes for smoking. Same goes for drinking. Same goes for loneliness.
See, there is a pattern of radical sides to all these things. On one side there is the **** it there is no hope. On the other is the fix it folks who can't seem to understand that there are issues that cause these things...it isn't simple.
I get it, both sides are downright annoying.
But one side is actually dangerous. Severe Loneliness is different than deliberate isolation. Some people handle isolation quite well, and actually prefer it. Now there are extremes to everything and too much can be too much. As a severe agoraphobic myself, I can say that though I NEED contact with people...sometimes...I also can get too much of it rather quickly and send myself into a mood to hide out that is very difficult to get out of. That's when I find myself doing things like eating oatmeal for three days as that is all I have left in the house, but I am incapable of a trip to the store.
Moderation at the level one can handle. That's the key.
And here is my concern. I'm seeing posts in this forum where people are suggesting that lonely people just accept isolation and learn to enjoy it. Hey, again, we are all different. I have no problem if someone says, "I have grown to prefer isolation." But I do have an issue with someone saying, "Everyone should isolate themselves."
To me, that is like saying, "It's too hard to quit smoking so don't try! In fact, smoke more!" Or, "Why not eat more! Get fatter! At least you will have the comfort of food before you drop dead!"
I wish I could write this better but maybe one last try. When giving advice, first, do no harm.