Getting addicted to escorts!

[Hawx79]

Im so lonely, alone and I feel like an outcast and pissed upon by society, so I think thats where it comes from, me turning to escort girls. With no family or friends i feel it everyday.
I realize im blowing away my money but I feel good for that short time that some cute girl is being nice and talks to me for a change.
Sure i wish i had a real girlfriend but it just impossible so it seems.
Already spent almost 2 month salary on escorts. Money I worked my ass of for with sweat!
Its not the sex I crave but the affection and this is the closest im able to get it.
What can i do? What the best next step i should take? I need advice from someone that can see my situation clearly cause I feel very hesitant right now.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Im so lonely, alone and I feel like an outcast and pissed upon by society, so I think thats where it comes from, me turning to escort girls. With no family or friends i feel it everyday.
I realize im blowing away my money but I feel good for that short time that some cute girl is being nice and talks to me for a change.
Sure i wish i had a real girlfriend but it just impossible so it seems.
Already spent almost 2 month salary on escorts. Money I worked my ass of for with sweat!
Its not the sex I crave but the affection and this is the closest im able to get it.
What can i do? What the best next step i should take? I need advice from someone that can see my situation clearly cause I feel very hesitant right now.

How often are you using them ?
And can you afford it ?
If your using money that is supposed to be for the rent then it's a problem. Two months salary sounds like a fortune. That would be £1,500 for me. If your doing 'over nighters' then your going to be broke very quickly. What about shorter time girls ? One hour ? Will be a lot cheaper and your still roughly getting the same thing.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

It's a tough one, but I think if you're seeing escort girls for the affection, you're aware how short lived it is, and that as soon as you can't afford to pay, that will be it, they won't want to know. That's not to say escorts are cold hearted, but they do it for a reason and that is to earn a living, I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone's consenting, but the well of loneliness is probably much deeper than your pockets.

I've heard of rent a friend services, which might work out cheaper if it's just the company you're looking for. I don't know much about them, though.

Perhaps therapy is another option, if you can find a good therapist it might help you make some longer term changes in your perspective, rather than an affection fix which will ultimately only last as long as you can afford it. I know therapy is not everyone's thing, and some people feel it's just paying for someone to listen - there are some parallels with seeing escorts in that sense, but I think with a good therapist who is doing the job for the right reasons, the care they have for you is real for the time they see you, while I think it's much more fake with escorts on the whole.

Just some thoughts, I'll be honest and say seeing escorts was something I tried in the past, in fact I saw one for a couple of years on and off, and it did feel like a relationship at times, we had a lot in common, but once my financial situation changed, that was the end of all contact, so I suppose another piece of advice is not to get too attached, I was able to manage not to, but I have heard of some people ending up falling in love with such women and that usually can only end badly.

 

[Hawx79]

How often are you using them ?
And can you afford it ?
If your using money that is supposed to be for the rent then it's a problem. Two months salary sounds like a fortune. That would be £1,500 for me. If your doing 'over nighters' then your going to be broke very quickly. What about shorter time girls ? One hour ? Will be a lot cheaper and your still roughly getting the same thing.

Im seeing them about every 2 weeks
Yeah I am still able to afford it but its hard earned cash you know.
And im seeing them for an hour but again its the exchanging of contact im enjoying more then the act. My loneliness is killing me and they really help for a while.

It's a tough one, but I think if you're seeing escort girls for the affection, you're aware how short lived it is, and that as soon as you can't afford to pay, that will be it, they won't want to know. That's not to say escorts are cold hearted, but they do it for a reason and that is to earn a living, I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone's consenting, but the well of loneliness is probably much deeper than your pockets.

I've heard of rent a friend services, which might work out cheaper if it's just the company you're looking for. I don't know much about them, though.

Perhaps therapy is another option, if you can find a good therapist it might help you make some longer term changes in your perspective, rather than an affection fix which will ultimately only last as long as you can afford it. I know therapy is not everyone's thing, and some people feel it's just paying for someone to listen - there are some parallels with seeing escorts in that sense, but I think with a good therapist who is doing the job for the right reasons, the care they have for you is real for the time they see you, while I think it's much more fake with escorts on the whole.

Just some thoughts, I'll be honest and say seeing escorts was something I tried in the past, in fact I saw one for a couple of years on and off, and it did feel like a relationship at times, we had a lot in common, but once my financial situation changed, that was the end of all contact, so I suppose another piece of advice is not to get too attached, I was able to manage not to, but I have heard of some people ending up falling in love with such women and that usually can only end badly.

Actually im already doing therapy but not much comes for me yet of it. And yeah its very easy for someone like me to fall in love with one of these girls but i keep both my feet on the ground.

 

[TheWalkingDead]

How often are you using them ?
And can you afford it ?
If your using money that is supposed to be for the rent then it's a problem. Two months salary sounds like a fortune. That would be £1,500 for me. If your doing 'over nighters' then your going to be broke very quickly. What about shorter time girls ? One hour ? Will be a lot cheaper and your still roughly getting the same thing.

Im seeing them about every 2 weeks
Yeah I am still able to afford it but its hard earned cash you know.
And im seeing them for an hour but again its the exchanging of contact im enjoying more then the act. My loneliness is killing me and they really help for a while.

It's a tough one, but I think if you're seeing escort girls for the affection, you're aware how short lived it is, and that as soon as you can't afford to pay, that will be it, they won't want to know. That's not to say escorts are cold hearted, but they do it for a reason and that is to earn a living, I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone's consenting, but the well of loneliness is probably much deeper than your pockets.

I've heard of rent a friend services, which might work out cheaper if it's just the company you're looking for. I don't know much about them, though.

Perhaps therapy is another option, if you can find a good therapist it might help you make some longer term changes in your perspective, rather than an affection fix which will ultimately only last as long as you can afford it. I know therapy is not everyone's thing, and some people feel it's just paying for someone to listen - there are some parallels with seeing escorts in that sense, but I think with a good therapist who is doing the job for the right reasons, the care they have for you is real for the time they see you, while I think it's much more fake with escorts on the whole.

Just some thoughts, I'll be honest and say seeing escorts was something I tried in the past, in fact I saw one for a couple of years on and off, and it did feel like a relationship at times, we had a lot in common, but once my financial situation changed, that was the end of all contact, so I suppose another piece of advice is not to get too attached, I was able to manage not to, but I have heard of some people ending up falling in love with such women and that usually can only end badly.

Actually im already doing therapy but not much comes for me yet of it. And yeah its very easy for someone like me to fall in love with one of these girls but i keep both my feet on the ground.

Cool, good luck with it all!

 

[Triple Bogey]

How often are you using them ?
And can you afford it ?
If your using money that is supposed to be for the rent then it's a problem. Two months salary sounds like a fortune. That would be £1,500 for me. If your doing 'over nighters' then your going to be broke very quickly. What about shorter time girls ? One hour ? Will be a lot cheaper and your still roughly getting the same thing.

Im seeing them about every 2 weeks
Yeah I am still able to afford it but its hard earned cash you know.
And im seeing them for an hour but again its the exchanging of contact im enjoying more then the act. My loneliness is killing me and they really help for a while.

It's a tough one, but I think if you're seeing escort girls for the affection, you're aware how short lived it is, and that as soon as you can't afford to pay, that will be it, they won't want to know. That's not to say escorts are cold hearted, but they do it for a reason and that is to earn a living, I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone's consenting, but the well of loneliness is probably much deeper than your pockets.

I've heard of rent a friend services, which might work out cheaper if it's just the company you're looking for. I don't know much about them, though.

Perhaps therapy is another option, if you can find a good therapist it might help you make some longer term changes in your perspective, rather than an affection fix which will ultimately only last as long as you can afford it. I know therapy is not everyone's thing, and some people feel it's just paying for someone to listen - there are some parallels with seeing escorts in that sense, but I think with a good therapist who is doing the job for the right reasons, the care they have for you is real for the time they see you, while I think it's much more fake with escorts on the whole.

Just some thoughts, I'll be honest and say seeing escorts was something I tried in the past, in fact I saw one for a couple of years on and off, and it did feel like a relationship at times, we had a lot in common, but once my financial situation changed, that was the end of all contact, so I suppose another piece of advice is not to get too attached, I was able to manage not to, but I have heard of some people ending up falling in love with such women and that usually can only end badly.

Actually im already doing therapy but not much comes for me yet of it. And yeah its very easy for someone like me to fall in love with one of these girls but i keep both my feet on the ground.

then if I was you, I would carry on. You say you can afford it and you enjoy it, so it's not a problem. See it as an expensive hobby. Just make sure you don't start going more often and don't fall for any of the ladies. They are basically actors putting on a show.

 

[Baka]

I get this. I sometimes think about doing the same thing, but then I decide against it. Don't get me wrong, I would love the attention and physical contact. It's been AGES since I've received anything of that sort, but it just sounds like trouble for me personally.

I think it would have the same effect on me as drinking. Sometimes I enjoy myself and feel very happy just like anyone else, but there's always a very big chance that I will become depressed. This is especially the case if I become isolated or lonely and start thinking about my life and the things that I am unhappy about.

I just think paying escorts would have a similar effect on me. Although I would like it at first, my mind would mess me up afterwards. I would probably bash myself for having to pay for sex and the fact that I am still alone.

My loneliness is mostly a result of my own choice and preferences, but I would still bash myself, believe me! I've given up trying to figure myself out!

 

[StarvingZombie]

As to the financial side of it , any relationship costs money, it's just the escort service puts this into a noticeable bill for services. <ducks>


The one point you should be careful with is the feigned verbal interactions and their effect on your normal interactions. Escorts will go along with ALMOST anything you talk about or how you talk to them. These do not translate into usable knowledge to base interactions with potential partners. It can have a way of spiraling due to formations of bad habits.

 

[MTrip]

Like any pleasurable habit, you can either keep it under control or, if you can't, then just stop doing it. As others here have said differently, escorts are actresses first & foremost. If you need sympathy she will be sympathetic then she will be sympathetic. If you want her to tie you to the bedposts & tickle you with a featherduster, she will do it. Whatever is required as long as she's getting paid & it's within her rules. Real affection cannot happen as part of a one-time cash transaction. Having said that, StarvingZombie's first comment has a few grains of truth in it.

Do not take any of the above comments as a judgment--I won't judge you for it. There are worse habits than yours. At least you're actually doing the mattress rodeo....those of us who go to strip clubs don't even get that unless you're in the right place & the girl is willing, but I've never taken that chance.