HappyYogi
Well-known member
Hi. Just wanted to share.
I have come to know a 44 year old educated guy who has said to me he has had issues with women ("they are always telling me what I am doing wrong") and with keeping professional jobs ("I am a misfit").
When I first got to know him I didn't understand why. He seemed nice, not offensive in anyway, attractive enough. But then as I got to know him I started to understand.
The guy was selfish and self-centered. Everything is always about him and his needs, feelings, etc and he never considered others (or me). He felt that was "too much effort".
Yet he can't understand why he has had trouble with women or hasn't had a longterm relationship (except with foreign women).
I post this because sometimes the problem is so obvious we don't see it! If this guy changed his ways, grew to liking to care and listen to others, grew to liking giving to others, he have success. I really think he has no idea how selfish he is.
Not saying you people are selfish just that sometimes it's one thing that is getting in the way of relationship success. We just have to know it to change it.
I have come to know a 44 year old educated guy who has said to me he has had issues with women ("they are always telling me what I am doing wrong") and with keeping professional jobs ("I am a misfit").
When I first got to know him I didn't understand why. He seemed nice, not offensive in anyway, attractive enough. But then as I got to know him I started to understand.
The guy was selfish and self-centered. Everything is always about him and his needs, feelings, etc and he never considered others (or me). He felt that was "too much effort".
Yet he can't understand why he has had trouble with women or hasn't had a longterm relationship (except with foreign women).
I post this because sometimes the problem is so obvious we don't see it! If this guy changed his ways, grew to liking to care and listen to others, grew to liking giving to others, he have success. I really think he has no idea how selfish he is.
Not saying you people are selfish just that sometimes it's one thing that is getting in the way of relationship success. We just have to know it to change it.