angel_in_view
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Hi everyone. I've really been down in the dumps this week & just wanted to come on here to see if anyone else feels or has felt like I do. I talked to my hubby about it, but he just looks @ me w/this sad face bc he wants to make it better but doesn't know how.
I look around at others and feel like i've just wasted my life. Things didn't really turn out the way I thought after college and it seems like its been one roadblock, disappointment, etc after the next. My hubby and I have relocated 3 times in the 10 yrs we've been married(bc of his work) and although he's doing okay w/his career, i'm not. The last time we relocated, I left a good job (bc it would have been too far to drive to daily) and since then I've been stuck..can't find a good job. I've had 3-4 interviews, but no offers. The last interview I had, the employer actually ended up telling me she was nervous about hiring me frankly bc i'm overqualified and she's scared i'd get in there and quit within a few months bc I wasn't being fulfilled. I thought, "okay, ummm...its not like I didn't know what the pay/hrs were when I applied for it!" I've never had someone say that to me, and it just did something to my self esteem...it really did. I thought, "wow, things are really bad if I can't even get a part time office job." I talked to a girlfriend about it the other day and told her its just a combination of things: I'm trying to lose weight and stuff I did before hitting 40 doesn't work anymore, I'm trying to make sure my parents (who are in their 80s) are taken care of(i'm an only child, so that's hard bc they don't live in the same town), I'm trying to get used to not having any real friends in the area we live in..meaning i'm not social if not going out somewhere w/my hubby. Pile all that on top of not being able to find a job and I've just come to a really sad place. Don't get me wrong, I have a good marriage and love my husband, but I'd like to have some "girl time" w/a friend. I miss doing that. I have real friends, but they're in other cities and we don't ever get together in person anymore. Everyone is busy w/their families, work, etc.
Sorry if i'm rambling..that was not my plan. I'm just really disgusted and never, EVER thought i'd be in my 40's feeling like this and being in this position in life. I told my hubby it would be different if I never had any plans once graduating high school. Its funny bc I have a friend who said she'd love to have my life...being the happy housewife. She never wanted to work bc she grew up w/her mom never working. Her dad made enough $ to where she didn't have to. Her "job" was to take care of the kids and the house. And I would love to have HER life..she works and has a 3 day weekend EVERY weekend, makes good money, has retirement & great benefits. What kills me is that she doesn't appreciate any of it. Hates working..would quit tomorrow if she could but she knows her parents won't take care of her. Hmm..she doesn't know how good she's got it.
I look around at others and feel like i've just wasted my life. Things didn't really turn out the way I thought after college and it seems like its been one roadblock, disappointment, etc after the next. My hubby and I have relocated 3 times in the 10 yrs we've been married(bc of his work) and although he's doing okay w/his career, i'm not. The last time we relocated, I left a good job (bc it would have been too far to drive to daily) and since then I've been stuck..can't find a good job. I've had 3-4 interviews, but no offers. The last interview I had, the employer actually ended up telling me she was nervous about hiring me frankly bc i'm overqualified and she's scared i'd get in there and quit within a few months bc I wasn't being fulfilled. I thought, "okay, ummm...its not like I didn't know what the pay/hrs were when I applied for it!" I've never had someone say that to me, and it just did something to my self esteem...it really did. I thought, "wow, things are really bad if I can't even get a part time office job." I talked to a girlfriend about it the other day and told her its just a combination of things: I'm trying to lose weight and stuff I did before hitting 40 doesn't work anymore, I'm trying to make sure my parents (who are in their 80s) are taken care of(i'm an only child, so that's hard bc they don't live in the same town), I'm trying to get used to not having any real friends in the area we live in..meaning i'm not social if not going out somewhere w/my hubby. Pile all that on top of not being able to find a job and I've just come to a really sad place. Don't get me wrong, I have a good marriage and love my husband, but I'd like to have some "girl time" w/a friend. I miss doing that. I have real friends, but they're in other cities and we don't ever get together in person anymore. Everyone is busy w/their families, work, etc.
Sorry if i'm rambling..that was not my plan. I'm just really disgusted and never, EVER thought i'd be in my 40's feeling like this and being in this position in life. I told my hubby it would be different if I never had any plans once graduating high school. Its funny bc I have a friend who said she'd love to have my life...being the happy housewife. She never wanted to work bc she grew up w/her mom never working. Her dad made enough $ to where she didn't have to. Her "job" was to take care of the kids and the house. And I would love to have HER life..she works and has a 3 day weekend EVERY weekend, makes good money, has retirement & great benefits. What kills me is that she doesn't appreciate any of it. Hates working..would quit tomorrow if she could but she knows her parents won't take care of her. Hmm..she doesn't know how good she's got it.