Naleena
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How would you feel if you had a gf/bf and they let themself go? Is it ok for a potiential mate to let themself go after they are comfortable with you?
user 130057 said:I find it kind of sad that aesthetics play such an important part in most people's relationships. I can understand it being a big part of the initial attraction, but shouldn't their character and shared experience be far more important once a relationship has formed?
I've never been with someone that has "let themselves go", but I know that it wouldn't have made one iota of difference to me how my wife had looked - I'd have loved her regardless. She had a fantastic personality and she'd have looked beautiful to me no matter what.
user 130057 said:I find it kind of sad that aesthetics play such an important part in most people's relationships. I can understand it being a big part of the initial attraction, but shouldn't their character and shared experience be far more important once a relationship has formed?
I've never been with someone that has "let themselves go", but I know that it wouldn't have made one iota of difference to me how my wife had looked - I'd have loved her regardless. She had a fantastic personality and she'd have looked beautiful to me no matter what.
user 130057 said:I find it kind of sad that aesthetics play such an important part in most people's relationships. I can understand it being a big part of the initial attraction, but shouldn't their character and shared experience be far more important once a relationship has formed?
I've never been with someone that has "let themselves go", but I know that it wouldn't have made one iota of difference to me how my wife had looked - I'd have loved her regardless. She had a fantastic personality and she'd have looked beautiful to me no matter what.
user 130057 said:I find it kind of sad that aesthetics play such an important part in most people's relationships. I can understand it being a big part of the initial attraction, but shouldn't their character and shared experience be far more important once a relationship has formed?
rdor said:user 130057 said:I find it kind of sad that aesthetics play such an important part in most people's relationships. I can understand it being a big part of the initial attraction, but shouldn't their character and shared experience be far more important once a relationship has formed?
I've never been with someone that has "let themselves go", but I know that it wouldn't have made one iota of difference to me how my wife had looked - I'd have loved her regardless. She had a fantastic personality and she'd have looked beautiful to me no matter what.
You judge physical attraction as unworthy once people are bonded, but it's okay to choose a mate on initial attraction? Being realistic, maintaining a reasonable appearance is part of being considerate to your spouse/partner.
Naleena said:How would you feel if you had a gf/bf and they let themself go? Is it ok for a potiential mate to let themself go after they are comfortable with you?
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