raincloud
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An old friend I like, but haven't seen in a year and a half (we live 70 miles apart and neither of us owns a car), wrote to me on Facebook to say she was in town this evening and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. She wrote two days in advance, and I have just sat on it. I couldn't respond. I didn't want to see her because I didn't want to bother lying about working (I am disabled and I often lie about it because I am ashamed and people often think badly of people who don't work). Also I have gained a lot of weight, and I am so depressed I truly cannot function. I have ignored two other friends in this fashion. I don't want people to think I don't like them, but I don't know how to express that without divulging the issues that bring me shame. I have spent most of the past several months lying on my floor in a ball, wanting to die. That isn't an exaggeration. I hardly have any furniture, so I lie on the floor with blankets thinking about death. I can't think of much else and I doubt I would be good company. Also, I have stopped drinking so I would have even MORE trouble talking. Also, my place is a mess and I don't want visitors. It took all of my energy just to wash my dishes yesterday.
I am especially concerned because this friend has had some major life changes recently and she might need a friend and I don't want her to think I am judgmental when I am happy for her.
Is there anything I can do or should I just resign to being a shut-in forever?
I am especially concerned because this friend has had some major life changes recently and she might need a friend and I don't want her to think I am judgmental when I am happy for her.
Is there anything I can do or should I just resign to being a shut-in forever?