I'm lonely as hell..

[cocopops]

Hey, I'm a new poster here so hi to all.

I've come here as I've been feeling lonely for quite a while now. The feeling of loneliness isn't always really bad with me. During most of the week I'm o.k'ish, I mean I know I'm lonely but I'm occupied by work and for the most part it's at the back of my mind.

The weekends are a different kettle of fish though. I usually spend most of the weekend in my room brooding in my own thoughts and getting seriously depressed. I've been trying to work 7 days a week to keep me occupied but it's not always possible.

I do have 2 friends but I rarely ever get to see them anymore. maybe once or twice every 6 months. One went to uni and the other has virtually dissapeard since getting a girlfriend.

I just struggle to make friends being 23, it's hard. It's not like anyone from work wants to hang out. I don't know, I guess I just want a best mate again like when I was In primary school.

Any advice on how to meet and make new friends, I want to change my life around ?

Thanks for reading

 

[IgnoredOne]

Do you play any sports?

 

[cocopops]

I cycle a bit and do some running, maybe I should find a team sport I can join in.

 

[evanescencefan91]

definatly i always feel the most lonely when I'm bored with nothing to do so the summer or the weekends

I love running and cycling though espically cycling i would just go out and bike for hours and made me feel a lot better

try taking some kind of art or music lesson or voluntering as something to keep you busy or keep your mind off stuff


*hugs*

 

[cocopops]

definatly i always feel the most lonely when I'm bored with nothing to do so the summer or the weekends

I love running and cycling though espically cycling i would just go out and bike for hours and made me feel a lot better

try taking some kind of art or music lesson or voluntering as something to keep you busy or keep your mind off stuff


*hugs*

Thanks, Cycling is great and I do feel good after any exercise. As for the music thats a great Idea, I've been having guitar lessons for years. Maybe I should push to join a band now, I guess that way I would be able to spend alot of time within a small group of people and make some good friends.

Good thinking - THANKS!

 

[LucieMay]

I think it definitely gets harder to make friends when you leave school/college/uni. A lot of my good friends made as I've got older have been through work, but a lot have also been through general socialising and friends of friends. I think once you meet one person in a friendship group it sort of cascades and you meet a lot of other people quite quickly.

 

[rosebud]

I know exactly how you feel, man. I'm in your shoes. I lost contact with my friends after high school. We see each other twice a year or so. In my new environment it seems I'm the only one who can't find a good friend. Maybe the fact that the people I'm around bore the ******* hell out of me has something to do with it.

Anyway I try to do a lot to get my mind busy - reading, working out, etc... Recently I figured out that going to the movies on your own is a great way to distract yourself. Since a few years ago I started going alone and at first it seemed strange, but after that when I went with somebody else, I hated it. Especially to a movie you really wanna see and that isn't the average teen comedy.

What I mean is that you should find something to do. Have you considered boxing for example or any other sport? Relieves stress and you might meet some cool people.

 

[cumulus.james]

Hey, I'm a new poster here so hi to all.

I've come here as I've been feeling lonely for quite a while now. The feeling of loneliness isn't always really bad with me. During most of the week I'm o.k'ish, I mean I know I'm lonely but I'm occupied by work and for the most part it's at the back of my mind.

The weekends are a different kettle of fish though. I usually spend most of the weekend in my room brooding in my own thoughts and getting seriously depressed. I've been trying to work 7 days a week to keep me occupied but it's not always possible.

I do have 2 friends but I rarely ever get to see them anymore. maybe once or twice every 6 months. One went to uni and the other has virtually dissapeard since getting a girlfriend.

I just struggle to make friends being 23, it's hard. It's not like anyone from work wants to hang out. I don't know, I guess I just want a best mate again like when I was In primary school.

Any advice on how to meet and make new friends, I want to change my life around ?

Thanks for reading

You see it a lot on here that people lose touch with their friends after education and fid it hard to make new ones. I blame face book and he smoking bans. God only knows what people do at night in towns like mine because the clubs and pubs are rarely busy and there’s nothing else really. So they must be living though face book.

If you have time you could do some volunteering in an area that suits you? Other than that its down to what your hobbies and interests are. For example there is a canoe club in my town, people of all ages get to meet there. Or if you were keen on politics most parties have members clubs and evens. Things like that could be good because when you meet someone you already have a common interest to talk about.