I received a message on that new dating site I recently posted about, and I'm a bit suspicious...from what I can tell in his online pic, this is not the usual toothless oaf I normally get contacted by -- he's actually really good looking! and I was *real* excited when I got his first message...then I read it, and, well, quite frankly, I don't think he's for real. Here's what he says (moderators, I hope this is legal to do as I've stripped out all the personal info):
First of all, let me start by saying that I was blown away by your profile .I guess there was no need for ME to worry about overwhelming YOU with my e-mail… I have always been a hopeful romantic longing to find THE ONE that I knew must be out there, and I am truly amazed and grateful that i came across your profile.. That is definitely one thing to thank technology for! No matter where this goes, I feel so blessed to have gotten see a beautiful woman like you and will love to meet you and to get to know you better..My subscription will be ending soon and don't intend to go for another plan because they seems to be too many weirdo's on the web..You're such a very beautiful and charming woman and am sure you hear that everyday, why in the world is a very beautiful woman like you still single? Life's too short not to be happy and it's what you decide to make it. I'm creative and outgoing, strong and independent, I take care of those I love but don't mind being cared for in return.I am athletic, well toned and love the physical as well as the cerebral chemistry in a partner and know you need both to be attractive.I can make you laugh and introduce you to something new almost every day.I am not sure how often i can get on here but i do check my e-mail very often,if you would like to give me a chance to be your friend, You can IM me on . Even if it just to say Hi ... I will write you back to let you know that i got your email... I really look forward to hearing back from you soon, Have a wonderful day.. [/i]
So why am I suspicious? Well, I sum it up in my response to him:
[i]Let me see here...I've got four sentences in my profile, certainly nothing to "blow away" anyone...and I'm not "very beautiful" as has been pointed out repeatedly by men on these dating sites ("you've gotta lower your standards because you're no catch yourself"). Also absent is any reference to the specific points I do make in my profile...for instance, are you also looking to date a person of the same political affiliation? are you also from outside this area? are you also a designer? All this leads me to believe --and apologies if I'm wrong --that your message was just copied/pasted over from somewhere else (or even computer-generated). Sorry but that really is how it appears...one harsh lesson these sites have taught me is if something looks too good to be true, then it probably is.[/i]
Yes, I was being harsh, but this is what ten years of online dating has done to me. I hit "send" realizing he could be genuine and have every right to be offended as hell and tell me off...Here's his response:
[i]Thank you for your message, am very happy to hear from you,I really don't mind if we can chat online yahoo and get to know more about our selves.If you are always available on yahoo pls kindly add me to your buddy list .When i read from you, I'm was happy because it seems to me that an Angel has just written me. You have all the qualities that a man need and i guess a man like me.I've been divorced for 3years, Since then, I've not dated much because i feel its better to find a real woman who will be with you forever, than a woman who will just be with you for a while your beauty is beyond something i could speak about because i believe God took an extra ordinary time to make you look the most beautiful way.. I just wish we were closer, so i can tell you all this looking straight into your eyes.. Life's too short not to be happy and it's what you decide to make it. I'm creative and outgoing, strong and independent, I take care of those I love but don't mind being cared for in return.I am athletic, well toned and love the physical as well as the cerebral chemistry in a partner and know you need both to be attractive. I can make you laugh and introduce you to something new almost every day.I am not sure how often i can get on here but i do check my e-mail very often,if you would like to give me a chance to be your friend, You can IM me on xxx Even if it just to say Hi ... I will write you back to let you know that i got your email... I really look forward to hearing back from you soon, Have a wonderful day.. [/i]
Um, did this guy even *read* my response??? Again, NO references to what's in my profile, in fact he just regurgitates his first message.
So...is it real or memorex? (yeah I know some of you won't know what that means, gawd I'm old!) Do I email him again? go ahead and put him in my IM list? or completely ignore from here on?
First of all, let me start by saying that I was blown away by your profile .I guess there was no need for ME to worry about overwhelming YOU with my e-mail… I have always been a hopeful romantic longing to find THE ONE that I knew must be out there, and I am truly amazed and grateful that i came across your profile.. That is definitely one thing to thank technology for! No matter where this goes, I feel so blessed to have gotten see a beautiful woman like you and will love to meet you and to get to know you better..My subscription will be ending soon and don't intend to go for another plan because they seems to be too many weirdo's on the web..You're such a very beautiful and charming woman and am sure you hear that everyday, why in the world is a very beautiful woman like you still single? Life's too short not to be happy and it's what you decide to make it. I'm creative and outgoing, strong and independent, I take care of those I love but don't mind being cared for in return.I am athletic, well toned and love the physical as well as the cerebral chemistry in a partner and know you need both to be attractive.I can make you laugh and introduce you to something new almost every day.I am not sure how often i can get on here but i do check my e-mail very often,if you would like to give me a chance to be your friend, You can IM me on . Even if it just to say Hi ... I will write you back to let you know that i got your email... I really look forward to hearing back from you soon, Have a wonderful day.. [/i]
So why am I suspicious? Well, I sum it up in my response to him:
[i]Let me see here...I've got four sentences in my profile, certainly nothing to "blow away" anyone...and I'm not "very beautiful" as has been pointed out repeatedly by men on these dating sites ("you've gotta lower your standards because you're no catch yourself"). Also absent is any reference to the specific points I do make in my profile...for instance, are you also looking to date a person of the same political affiliation? are you also from outside this area? are you also a designer? All this leads me to believe --and apologies if I'm wrong --that your message was just copied/pasted over from somewhere else (or even computer-generated). Sorry but that really is how it appears...one harsh lesson these sites have taught me is if something looks too good to be true, then it probably is.[/i]
Yes, I was being harsh, but this is what ten years of online dating has done to me. I hit "send" realizing he could be genuine and have every right to be offended as hell and tell me off...Here's his response:
[i]Thank you for your message, am very happy to hear from you,I really don't mind if we can chat online yahoo and get to know more about our selves.If you are always available on yahoo pls kindly add me to your buddy list .When i read from you, I'm was happy because it seems to me that an Angel has just written me. You have all the qualities that a man need and i guess a man like me.I've been divorced for 3years, Since then, I've not dated much because i feel its better to find a real woman who will be with you forever, than a woman who will just be with you for a while your beauty is beyond something i could speak about because i believe God took an extra ordinary time to make you look the most beautiful way.. I just wish we were closer, so i can tell you all this looking straight into your eyes.. Life's too short not to be happy and it's what you decide to make it. I'm creative and outgoing, strong and independent, I take care of those I love but don't mind being cared for in return.I am athletic, well toned and love the physical as well as the cerebral chemistry in a partner and know you need both to be attractive. I can make you laugh and introduce you to something new almost every day.I am not sure how often i can get on here but i do check my e-mail very often,if you would like to give me a chance to be your friend, You can IM me on xxx Even if it just to say Hi ... I will write you back to let you know that i got your email... I really look forward to hearing back from you soon, Have a wonderful day.. [/i]
Um, did this guy even *read* my response??? Again, NO references to what's in my profile, in fact he just regurgitates his first message.
So...is it real or memorex? (yeah I know some of you won't know what that means, gawd I'm old!) Do I email him again? go ahead and put him in my IM list? or completely ignore from here on?
