This is not a rant. It's more of just me sitting at work trying to get my mind off not having a social life.
There are things that having been picking at me for many many years.
First off, I always hated when I would see someone say, "you're still young. You have plenty of time left." It's as if they are saying "don't worry, everything will happen at some point." What they seem to leave out is that things may never work out.
People use that as a statement for anything when people say they have never done something. Whatever it may be. Instead of having a solution, they just say that everything will happen one day and to stop worrying about it.
For example, I frequently see people here say that they haven't dated anyone and it's bothering them. I didn't start getting hit by it until my late-20's when I started to realize I was getting close to being ready to start dating.
It seems that things go sort of like this.
Person: "I'm 15 and I don't know how to find someone to date!"
Repliers: "You are too young to be worrying about relationships. You can worry about that when you are older."
Person: "I'm 20 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "You are still very young. Don't worry about it. You have plenty of time. Enjoy your life."
Person: "I'm 25 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "You are still young. You still have plenty of time to figure it all out. Don't worry. It will all happen in due time."
Person: "I'm 30 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "Oh, you shouldn't be worrying about figuring that out. Some people just find someone later in life. Just keep going out there and searching. You will find someone."
Person: "I'm 35 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "There's plenty of people out there your age that would find you are great person. Just get out there and find that special someone. You aren't old yet."
Person: "I'm 40 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "Ok, you are getting old. Have you thought about giving up and just being happy with being alone?"
Another thing that nags me is that people think feeling lonely and being depressed are the same thing. I have finally gotten my mom to agree that there is a difference even if she still disagrees.
Since I never have figured out how people find others to communicate with, I frequently feel very lonely and left out. People tell me I just need to go to a doctor and get medication so I can be happy. So far no one has been able to tell me what a doctor or medication has to do with finding people to hang out with. I'm quite sure we haven't gotten to the point in medicine that a pill can magically create another individual. I'm guessing if they gave just the right meds I could get split personalities and then I could spend my time talking to all the different personalities.
I'm thinking that from now on whenever someone says that they are unhappy about something, I will tell them to go see a doctor. I'll see if their own "medicine" works on them.
It's just as bad when it comes to trying to find someone to date. Right now it's the only thing I'm looking for. I have everything else. People keep telling me to just enjoy life and not worry about dating. Unfortunately I won't enjoy life until I can find someone to date. They then tell me to go to a doctor. I ask them, "do you know one that is single, my age, and looking to date?" So far, no one has come back with a response to that one.
Basically people are telling me that I will never figure out how to date so I just need to go get medication so I can be forced "happy" about my life. Unfortunately "forced" happiness is not real happiness.
Even worse is that the extremely autistic guy at work gets a kick out of the fact that I can't find a date. He loves to shout to the floor that I need to find someone to date. Almost as bad as the guy I worked with that one day started dragging woman after woman over to my desk and then telling them that I don't know how to date and I'm a virgin and that they need to give me advise on how to date. Every one of them gave me terrible advise. Then I found out every one of them had been divorced at least once and hated men.
There are things that having been picking at me for many many years.
First off, I always hated when I would see someone say, "you're still young. You have plenty of time left." It's as if they are saying "don't worry, everything will happen at some point." What they seem to leave out is that things may never work out.
People use that as a statement for anything when people say they have never done something. Whatever it may be. Instead of having a solution, they just say that everything will happen one day and to stop worrying about it.
For example, I frequently see people here say that they haven't dated anyone and it's bothering them. I didn't start getting hit by it until my late-20's when I started to realize I was getting close to being ready to start dating.
It seems that things go sort of like this.
Person: "I'm 15 and I don't know how to find someone to date!"
Repliers: "You are too young to be worrying about relationships. You can worry about that when you are older."
Person: "I'm 20 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "You are still very young. Don't worry about it. You have plenty of time. Enjoy your life."
Person: "I'm 25 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "You are still young. You still have plenty of time to figure it all out. Don't worry. It will all happen in due time."
Person: "I'm 30 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "Oh, you shouldn't be worrying about figuring that out. Some people just find someone later in life. Just keep going out there and searching. You will find someone."
Person: "I'm 35 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "There's plenty of people out there your age that would find you are great person. Just get out there and find that special someone. You aren't old yet."
Person: "I'm 40 and I don't know how to find someone date!"
Repliers: "Ok, you are getting old. Have you thought about giving up and just being happy with being alone?"
Another thing that nags me is that people think feeling lonely and being depressed are the same thing. I have finally gotten my mom to agree that there is a difference even if she still disagrees.
Since I never have figured out how people find others to communicate with, I frequently feel very lonely and left out. People tell me I just need to go to a doctor and get medication so I can be happy. So far no one has been able to tell me what a doctor or medication has to do with finding people to hang out with. I'm quite sure we haven't gotten to the point in medicine that a pill can magically create another individual. I'm guessing if they gave just the right meds I could get split personalities and then I could spend my time talking to all the different personalities.
I'm thinking that from now on whenever someone says that they are unhappy about something, I will tell them to go see a doctor. I'll see if their own "medicine" works on them.
It's just as bad when it comes to trying to find someone to date. Right now it's the only thing I'm looking for. I have everything else. People keep telling me to just enjoy life and not worry about dating. Unfortunately I won't enjoy life until I can find someone to date. They then tell me to go to a doctor. I ask them, "do you know one that is single, my age, and looking to date?" So far, no one has come back with a response to that one.
Basically people are telling me that I will never figure out how to date so I just need to go get medication so I can be forced "happy" about my life. Unfortunately "forced" happiness is not real happiness.
Even worse is that the extremely autistic guy at work gets a kick out of the fact that I can't find a date. He loves to shout to the floor that I need to find someone to date. Almost as bad as the guy I worked with that one day started dragging woman after woman over to my desk and then telling them that I don't know how to date and I'm a virgin and that they need to give me advise on how to date. Every one of them gave me terrible advise. Then I found out every one of them had been divorced at least once and hated men.