Thanks for the replies once again.
I'm not really trying to fit in with people, i've distanced myself from people my whole life. I'm trying catch up in a life sense, for example becoming more independant instead of being reclusive, developing some kind of future. My parents can't support me forever, so this is a very real thing.
I brought up the aspergers link because i've always had some form of difficulty socialising. I've always felt 'dead inside'.. i'm away with the fairies or not on the same wavelength that everyone else is on.