floydian said:
I'm in my second year of college. The only "close" friend I made last year turned into my girlfriend. We got an apartment on campus together this year instead of returning to the dorms. For all that I have, though, I'm still lonely. I don't have any guy friends at my school that I can hang out with. I'm thinking about moving back to the dorms and getting a roommate again, but I don't know if I would be able to make friends there anyways. After all, it didn't work last year. I am shy and self conscious (i'm 20 years old but have a baby face and look about 3 years younger than i am). People avoid eye contact and conversation with me, and when they initiate, they always tell me how young I look. When I initiate, they show zero interest in carrying out a conversation. Any suggestions??
Yeah, I don't know if I can really help, since I am also a 20 year old, female in college having some of the same issues. Well, I mean at least you have a girlfriend, but yeah, most of my friends I made my freshman year (I'm a sophomore now) have faded away, were disrepectful to me, and were too immature for me to deal with.
I have the opposite problem: I have a few male friends, all a bit immature, and I don't have any girly friends to be with, even though the college I attend is like 70% girls!
I am also kind of shy, but I have had the best luck starting a conversation with someone just by smiling at the person, and having eye contact. Obviously, if they don't keep eye contact, and they don't seem to be smiling back or don't appear to be friendly, move on.
I would also suggest finding friends in your major, except currently I'm having the problem of not being able to make friends in my major--yet. There are a few nice people that I can potentially see being my friends in a few months or so. So I don't know if that would work for you.
Of course joining a club might be helpful in meeting new people and making new friends, and if you want guy friends, probably join an intramural sport or something, a hiking club, a men's choir, or a video gaming club (however if we had one of those, I'd certainly join and I know other girls who would join too! ^_^).
Also, how big is your college? I go to a fairly small college (4,000 people), so sometimes it's hard to make new friends, since it's so small, and everyone already knows you, yet if you're at a big college, it'd be hard to make friends because of the sheer number of people.
Good luck to you!