Shelterdog71
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I'm a 42 year old single female with no kids. I've never had a decent relationship with a man in my life. Men have NEVER been attracted to me even when I was 20 years younger (and thinner). The few guys I have dated all used me for money, a place to live, or as a maid/mother. In bars or any public place, men have NEVER come up and initiated a conversation with me. They swarm all over my girlfriends but completely ignore me while I sit there alone. I don't get it. I'm attractive, clean, dress nice, friendly, intelligent, funny, have a career, house, etc.
I'm not imagining this either. My best friend doesn't understand why this happens. She's seen firsthand how men have treated me over the years.
Once at a carnival I walked by these 2 guys that were about my age. One said to the other, "Oh there's one for you!" and they both busted out laughing and pointing at me. Really? At a friggin carnival???
Recently I had a nice looking guy come up to me in a bar only to tell me how incredibly sexy and gorgeous my friend was and that he wanted to hook up with her.
More times than I can count I've had men hold a door for a very attractive woman but they let it slam right in my face.
And one thing I'll never forget... this drunk guy in a bar said to me, "I'm so f-ing drunk I would even take YOU home tonight!" That does wonders for the self esteem doesn't it?
I could go on and on but you get the idea.
I go out with my friends and try to meet people but it doesn't work. I smile, make eye contact, start conversations, whatever. But men ignore me as if I wasn't even there, or as if I was just another man. They won't make eye contact and look right through me.
I also get called "Sir" alot and that just really boggles my mind. This can happen even when I'm wearing a low cut pink shirt with HUGE cleavage showing, makeup, jewelry, long hair, etc.
I haven't had a boyfriend since 2005, and he turned out to be another one just using me for money and a place to live. We had sex maybe 5 times during the first year of our relationship and then that was it. And those 5 times I practically had to beg for it.
There are times when I wish I was a lesbian but women probably wouldn't be attracted to me either. :-(
There is nothing I want more than to be loved and to have a normal intimate relationship with someone. I ache for human companionship.
Whenever a man I'm interested in finds out I'm interested, his first reaction is usually "Oh NO WAY! We're friends and all, but that's IT". Or one of the other many textbook excuses such as "I think of you as a sister" or "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now". I've gotten to the point where I won't even bother trying anymore because I know I will get rejected and my heart can't take it again.
And if I hear "Oh you will meet someone! It will happen!" one more time I'm gonna puke. It hasn't happened in almost 43 years and it's never going to.
I'm not imagining this either. My best friend doesn't understand why this happens. She's seen firsthand how men have treated me over the years.
Once at a carnival I walked by these 2 guys that were about my age. One said to the other, "Oh there's one for you!" and they both busted out laughing and pointing at me. Really? At a friggin carnival???
Recently I had a nice looking guy come up to me in a bar only to tell me how incredibly sexy and gorgeous my friend was and that he wanted to hook up with her.
More times than I can count I've had men hold a door for a very attractive woman but they let it slam right in my face.
And one thing I'll never forget... this drunk guy in a bar said to me, "I'm so f-ing drunk I would even take YOU home tonight!" That does wonders for the self esteem doesn't it?
I could go on and on but you get the idea.
I go out with my friends and try to meet people but it doesn't work. I smile, make eye contact, start conversations, whatever. But men ignore me as if I wasn't even there, or as if I was just another man. They won't make eye contact and look right through me.
I also get called "Sir" alot and that just really boggles my mind. This can happen even when I'm wearing a low cut pink shirt with HUGE cleavage showing, makeup, jewelry, long hair, etc.
I haven't had a boyfriend since 2005, and he turned out to be another one just using me for money and a place to live. We had sex maybe 5 times during the first year of our relationship and then that was it. And those 5 times I practically had to beg for it.
There are times when I wish I was a lesbian but women probably wouldn't be attracted to me either. :-(
There is nothing I want more than to be loved and to have a normal intimate relationship with someone. I ache for human companionship.
Whenever a man I'm interested in finds out I'm interested, his first reaction is usually "Oh NO WAY! We're friends and all, but that's IT". Or one of the other many textbook excuses such as "I think of you as a sister" or "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now". I've gotten to the point where I won't even bother trying anymore because I know I will get rejected and my heart can't take it again.
And if I hear "Oh you will meet someone! It will happen!" one more time I'm gonna puke. It hasn't happened in almost 43 years and it's never going to.