LadyDaria
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Yeh... there is one test to see who is a friend and who isn't... moving. Next week I am moving to a new place. I thought three things:
- my brother, who's is family, and has an SUV -- would do something, even minor. Like come over to visit and help me with heavier things. He is unemployed. That is what family does right? Nope... he doesn't even bother coming up with an excuse... just no response to my request. I swear if he doesn't come, I do not see what the point is in even having a brother. Really I get nothing from him at all. I just get called for xmas, I guess, due to pity or, my giving his son a gift.
- Surely one of my friends, who egged me on so much to buy this place, would come and give me a little help. I mean not even moving help, just come see the place. No, not a one. Here too most have not even bothered to come with an excuse... just no answer.
- So I actually pay a girl to run my errands. The deal was 2 hours a week were she did what I needed... l called her and told her I wanted her to devote those two hours to helping me move. She freaked out and told me she couldn't do that because of her knees (going up and down the stairs) um... she seems to go up and down the stairs normally when she runs my errands. Ok fine, I told her her car would be a big help.. but then she calls me and get this-- tells me her wrists are hurting her and she doesn't know if she could do anything but drive, but, that she can still run my errands. Yeh I am not paying you to drive. I can just make two trips.
Abandonment. Complete and utter abandonment.
What is, frankly, the point of all these people if when I need them... I don't get them. Isn't it at the heart of any relationship a quid pro quo... friends, family, employee... yet everyone single one of them expects the quid but not the pro.
It just makes me feel like retreating and not going near any of them again... but then I think that is why I am lonely... But these people... they aren't really helping that.
- my brother, who's is family, and has an SUV -- would do something, even minor. Like come over to visit and help me with heavier things. He is unemployed. That is what family does right? Nope... he doesn't even bother coming up with an excuse... just no response to my request. I swear if he doesn't come, I do not see what the point is in even having a brother. Really I get nothing from him at all. I just get called for xmas, I guess, due to pity or, my giving his son a gift.
- Surely one of my friends, who egged me on so much to buy this place, would come and give me a little help. I mean not even moving help, just come see the place. No, not a one. Here too most have not even bothered to come with an excuse... just no answer.
- So I actually pay a girl to run my errands. The deal was 2 hours a week were she did what I needed... l called her and told her I wanted her to devote those two hours to helping me move. She freaked out and told me she couldn't do that because of her knees (going up and down the stairs) um... she seems to go up and down the stairs normally when she runs my errands. Ok fine, I told her her car would be a big help.. but then she calls me and get this-- tells me her wrists are hurting her and she doesn't know if she could do anything but drive, but, that she can still run my errands. Yeh I am not paying you to drive. I can just make two trips.
Abandonment. Complete and utter abandonment.
What is, frankly, the point of all these people if when I need them... I don't get them. Isn't it at the heart of any relationship a quid pro quo... friends, family, employee... yet everyone single one of them expects the quid but not the pro.
It just makes me feel like retreating and not going near any of them again... but then I think that is why I am lonely... But these people... they aren't really helping that.