lifestream
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Hey guys.
I saw an ex-friend of mine by chance yesterday. I cut this girl out of my life because her rampant narcissism was feeding and amplifying my own melancholia. Anyway, yesterday she was sucking up all the oxygen within a ten mile radius and I got to thinking about my long association with her.
We had a friendship for about a year, when we were in our mid-teens. She wasn't narcissistic back then, but she had self-esteem issues. Our friendship imploded, as teenage friendships sometimes do, but we kept in touch. It wasn't until a year after we stopped being friends that I noticed that she was becoming slightly self-involved. I'd see her once every few months and every time we met I noted that her self-involvement had gotten progressively worse. It was three years before I began to see the obvious signs of narcissism (grandiose sense of self-worth, lack of empathy, dreams of unlimited success, etc.). I tried several times to reach her emotionally but it was no use, her narcissistic tendencies had become too engrained. The only thing that had remained constant with her, besides the narcissism, was her low self-esteem.
Anyway, what I was thinking about while she was droning on was depression. My own experiences with it marked me. I'm introverted, I rarely communicate my feelings and I'm very much a student of human behaviour. My former friend has been marked by depression too. Her whole life is a film in which she's the lead, she communicates every trivial thought and feeling and seems completely oblivious to other human beings if they don't fulfill her need for narcissistic supply.
Thinking this made feel very sorry for her but it was an interesting thought all the same: Is narcissism the other fork in the road when it comes to depression?
I saw an ex-friend of mine by chance yesterday. I cut this girl out of my life because her rampant narcissism was feeding and amplifying my own melancholia. Anyway, yesterday she was sucking up all the oxygen within a ten mile radius and I got to thinking about my long association with her.
We had a friendship for about a year, when we were in our mid-teens. She wasn't narcissistic back then, but she had self-esteem issues. Our friendship imploded, as teenage friendships sometimes do, but we kept in touch. It wasn't until a year after we stopped being friends that I noticed that she was becoming slightly self-involved. I'd see her once every few months and every time we met I noted that her self-involvement had gotten progressively worse. It was three years before I began to see the obvious signs of narcissism (grandiose sense of self-worth, lack of empathy, dreams of unlimited success, etc.). I tried several times to reach her emotionally but it was no use, her narcissistic tendencies had become too engrained. The only thing that had remained constant with her, besides the narcissism, was her low self-esteem.
Anyway, what I was thinking about while she was droning on was depression. My own experiences with it marked me. I'm introverted, I rarely communicate my feelings and I'm very much a student of human behaviour. My former friend has been marked by depression too. Her whole life is a film in which she's the lead, she communicates every trivial thought and feeling and seems completely oblivious to other human beings if they don't fulfill her need for narcissistic supply.
Thinking this made feel very sorry for her but it was an interesting thought all the same: Is narcissism the other fork in the road when it comes to depression?