River Lion
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I want a girlfriend very badly. This may seem like a long post, but please, I need help. I have no one else to turn to, so I must seek help on an internet forum. I've been in this rut for long enough.
19, male, hetero,
Entering 2nd yr of university in September.
Need serious help.
I'm going to keep this really short and concise. Don't want to go into detail so this turns into a long-winded
textwall.
- I am 19 and have no friends. Never flirted/dated/kissed/hugged a girl.
- I am confused. Confused in the sense that I don't even know if I want friends, or just can't get them. I don't struggle to talk to people...I am not Sheldon from BBT. I can sustain a conversation, I guess.
- I have examined myself within and still see that I have no interest in making friends. That includes male "buddies", like the John Jim and Jack guys that you can play a video game with or do this and that.
- I do want a girlfriend, however.
- I am socially disconnected. I don't watch dramas like The OC or 90210 and have no idea what is socially acceptable.
- I have no freaking clue on how to go about getting a girlfriend. I've browsed the internet, but all guides are void to me:
They say "use your friends to introduce you to a girl. Mutual friends are a good way to date”
> Can’t do that, got no friends.
Go to bars/clubs/whatever and pick up girls there.
> No, I don’t want some hedonistic, partying, shot-taking bimbo. Not to insult guys who do, but that's just my personal preference. Also, I hear going to clubs alone is socially unacceptable so I can't go anyway.
Talk to girls in your dorm
> I commute to school, I do not live on residence.
Join clubs and meet girls there
> The 1st school year ended and I didn't do much in way of clubs, but I am an executive on a club for the 2014-2015 year and will try this out.
Please do not suggest:
“You’ll have to work your way up. Make a good circle of guy friends, then get them to introduce you to girls they know in their network. Sisters, female friends, dorm buddies, whatever.”
> It could take a year or more for me to establish a good network of 3-4 guy friends. Can’t do that. I want to jump straight into the girlfriend part.
I am setting out on quest to get a girlfriend. I want to prove that I can do it, against all odds.
Case Study:
To better help you folks help me, I’ve decided that instead of you giving me general tips you can give me tips that apply to an actual real life scenario.
I have been infatuated with this girl ever since I first saw her.
She is in a Tuesday lecture of mine. I would arrive at 3:00 and take a seat. She would arrive a few minutes later and sit there with all her friends surrounding her down the row.
All the time I spent with her was staring at the back of her beautiful blonde mop.
This is the only time I saw her. That’s it. I wouldn’t even see her in hallways on occasion because the school is massive. I was in no common clubs with her, and although she lives on campus I do not.
Let’s say I wanted to date this girl. What could I have done? What is the socially acceptable process?
19, male, hetero,
Entering 2nd yr of university in September.
Need serious help.
I'm going to keep this really short and concise. Don't want to go into detail so this turns into a long-winded
textwall.
- I am 19 and have no friends. Never flirted/dated/kissed/hugged a girl.
- I am confused. Confused in the sense that I don't even know if I want friends, or just can't get them. I don't struggle to talk to people...I am not Sheldon from BBT. I can sustain a conversation, I guess.
- I have examined myself within and still see that I have no interest in making friends. That includes male "buddies", like the John Jim and Jack guys that you can play a video game with or do this and that.
- I do want a girlfriend, however.
- I am socially disconnected. I don't watch dramas like The OC or 90210 and have no idea what is socially acceptable.
- I have no freaking clue on how to go about getting a girlfriend. I've browsed the internet, but all guides are void to me:
They say "use your friends to introduce you to a girl. Mutual friends are a good way to date”
> Can’t do that, got no friends.
Go to bars/clubs/whatever and pick up girls there.
> No, I don’t want some hedonistic, partying, shot-taking bimbo. Not to insult guys who do, but that's just my personal preference. Also, I hear going to clubs alone is socially unacceptable so I can't go anyway.
Talk to girls in your dorm
> I commute to school, I do not live on residence.
Join clubs and meet girls there
> The 1st school year ended and I didn't do much in way of clubs, but I am an executive on a club for the 2014-2015 year and will try this out.
Please do not suggest:
“You’ll have to work your way up. Make a good circle of guy friends, then get them to introduce you to girls they know in their network. Sisters, female friends, dorm buddies, whatever.”
> It could take a year or more for me to establish a good network of 3-4 guy friends. Can’t do that. I want to jump straight into the girlfriend part.
I am setting out on quest to get a girlfriend. I want to prove that I can do it, against all odds.
Case Study:
To better help you folks help me, I’ve decided that instead of you giving me general tips you can give me tips that apply to an actual real life scenario.
I have been infatuated with this girl ever since I first saw her.
She is in a Tuesday lecture of mine. I would arrive at 3:00 and take a seat. She would arrive a few minutes later and sit there with all her friends surrounding her down the row.
All the time I spent with her was staring at the back of her beautiful blonde mop.
This is the only time I saw her. That’s it. I wouldn’t even see her in hallways on occasion because the school is massive. I was in no common clubs with her, and although she lives on campus I do not.
Let’s say I wanted to date this girl. What could I have done? What is the socially acceptable process?