hellostarlight
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Hello.. so as are quite a few people on here I'm worried that I'll spend the rest of my life alone. I'm still a teen, I know, and I'm grateful to still have limbs and not be out in a country at war etc. but as time goes by I'm deteriorating really quickly
It's to the point now where I don't feel like I have much control over myself anymore and feel almost in a constant daze like I have nothing to lose. I'm trying to get better by getting professional help and there are some people on here I talk to every now and then which is nice but I can't shake this feeling that's getting stronger. Even if strangers are mean to me its a huge blow to my self-esteem but then when people who are close to me are mean it pushes me back so much more yet it's something I can't control.
I don't want to go to hospital because I'd feel way too vulnerable.. as paranoid as it sounds I've had enough bad experiences with professionals already and being in a place where most things are gonna be taken away from you and you're already branded as a crazy person (not my personal thoughts obviously but that is the general stigma imo) if something happened I wouldn't have anyone to tell or anyone who would believe me.
I don't trust anyone to properly look out for me anymore, but at the same time my anxiety and agoraphobia etc. is so bad I know I can't legitimately get a job and manage bills etc. as little things stress me out and the first thing I go to when I feel stressed out and trapped is harmful stuff which I'm kind of ashamed to admit but it's nothing that harms other people.. which leaves me with the option of staying with my family. At this point I can't tell if they mean well or not. To me the things they do and say to me is just too messed up to justify in any situation but then again I'm so messed up even my counsellors don't know what to do with me so yeah I can get why people would hate me.
But if so why do people not agree with suicide in instances like this? .-. I don't get what I'm supposed to do here. I live and be a burden and be alone and make everyone angry and suffer or die and don't have to suffer or get in the way anymore. Or maybe I will suffer, I don't know what comes after death. I'm not saying everyone should do it of course, I just don't know what options I have personally. Even physically now I'm being affected due to stress.
I hate feeling this way and having to say such negative things and saying "but" all the time. Things like doing hobbies and talking to people and distracting myself don't work anymore. Even hurting myself doesn't work for as long as it used to. I'm getting worse every day and I really don't want to die never having been truly happy or knowing what love - any kind of love, friendship romantically or otherwise - feels like.
So looking for any other suggestions if possible on how to get better or ways to escape/be independent taking into consideration my problems.
Currently going through the motions of therapy and counselling but I'm still getting worse. I already made a super long post before so yeah there are other issues but that's in the other post I made. I'm not supposed to be such a miserable person. My personality is to be happy and bubbly.. not this :/
It's to the point now where I don't feel like I have much control over myself anymore and feel almost in a constant daze like I have nothing to lose. I'm trying to get better by getting professional help and there are some people on here I talk to every now and then which is nice but I can't shake this feeling that's getting stronger. Even if strangers are mean to me its a huge blow to my self-esteem but then when people who are close to me are mean it pushes me back so much more yet it's something I can't control.
I don't want to go to hospital because I'd feel way too vulnerable.. as paranoid as it sounds I've had enough bad experiences with professionals already and being in a place where most things are gonna be taken away from you and you're already branded as a crazy person (not my personal thoughts obviously but that is the general stigma imo) if something happened I wouldn't have anyone to tell or anyone who would believe me.
I don't trust anyone to properly look out for me anymore, but at the same time my anxiety and agoraphobia etc. is so bad I know I can't legitimately get a job and manage bills etc. as little things stress me out and the first thing I go to when I feel stressed out and trapped is harmful stuff which I'm kind of ashamed to admit but it's nothing that harms other people.. which leaves me with the option of staying with my family. At this point I can't tell if they mean well or not. To me the things they do and say to me is just too messed up to justify in any situation but then again I'm so messed up even my counsellors don't know what to do with me so yeah I can get why people would hate me.
But if so why do people not agree with suicide in instances like this? .-. I don't get what I'm supposed to do here. I live and be a burden and be alone and make everyone angry and suffer or die and don't have to suffer or get in the way anymore. Or maybe I will suffer, I don't know what comes after death. I'm not saying everyone should do it of course, I just don't know what options I have personally. Even physically now I'm being affected due to stress.
I hate feeling this way and having to say such negative things and saying "but" all the time. Things like doing hobbies and talking to people and distracting myself don't work anymore. Even hurting myself doesn't work for as long as it used to. I'm getting worse every day and I really don't want to die never having been truly happy or knowing what love - any kind of love, friendship romantically or otherwise - feels like.
So looking for any other suggestions if possible on how to get better or ways to escape/be independent taking into consideration my problems.
Currently going through the motions of therapy and counselling but I'm still getting worse. I already made a super long post before so yeah there are other issues but that's in the other post I made. I'm not supposed to be such a miserable person. My personality is to be happy and bubbly.. not this :/