EDIT: as Aisha pointed out, we should write also how we think we can improve, as this was the original purpose of the thread. So now I'll add it.
Ok.. here goes:
- I think I'm a ugly and a bad person, full of bad traits and with very few good ones;
-> maybe if I improve the rest I'd feel I'm a better person. No idea. I can improve my body by excersing: that might just boost my self esteem a bit.
- I am extremely lazy, tend to procrastinate, and consequently almost never do what I have to;
-> advice welcome here. I have tried many things. I guess with a lot of time and effort I could fix this.
- I am a worrier and often paranoid: I tend to assume the worst;
-> hm learning to trust myself and people more might solve this.
- Most of the time I "play" situations in my head, rather than in the real world. (This includes talking to people, at times)
-> ?
- I often think about death. Mine more often, but also that of relatives (which in some cases is bound to happen not so far in the future).
-> ?
- I have been a bad brother and a bad son. I can't talk with family and relatives... or rather I can talk to them, but not really communicate. At times I feel a stranger even when I'm in my family. But I do care (a lot) about them.
-> I need to find a way to open up to them, bit by bit, and probably I should also keep in touch more often.
- my so called "emotions" are either completely absent, or a jumbled mess. Thus I tend to rely on logic, but can (and did) ignore it at random.
-> ?
- I tend to isolate (in real life). People tire me and I can't seem to find a person who understands me more then a bit. I have a few friends and, I'm ashamed to tell this, I don't really like them, but they are the only ones I have and I can't afford to lose them.
-> ?
- I'm a realist in my opinion, but the truth is I'm actually a pessimist but an optimist in front of other people.
-> ?
- I tend to hide it when I suffer. I rarely allow people "near" me, meaning I tend to just "disappear" and then "coming back" when I'm ok;
-> ?
- I can't say no if people ask for a favour, even if I'm struggling with something else or I don't have the time. For this reason, many times people take advantage of me and my efforts go unrewarded (but alas! most of the time I don't even mind this, as I take pleasure in helping people. And this is bad too, because I don't want to help people just to feel better, as that would make me a selfish person)
-> I need to learn to say NO when I have to. Helping people must never be at my own expense and if done, must be done out out of altruism.
- I can't get angry when I have to. This is bad too because not only people exploit this trait of mine, but also when I get angry for real I release all the pent up anger (I'm told I'm pretty scary) and usually people would think I'm batshit crazy. My patience is my downfall..
-> I shouldn't let anger build up. I should learn to deal with it.
- I have some problems in socializing with people. Both in real life and online. This is mitigated a bit by the fact that I like people on instinct. This is a problem too, on the other hand, because I might get personal too soon and seem creepy. But well, if I don't like a person, I keep them as far from me as possible. I never am the first to talk to a new person in real life. I do answer if I'm asked things though. I can't flirt with girls, and actually I've never actively tried as I'm too shy and introverted and just thinking about it gets me panic attacks. I hate physical contact with strangers or people who are not friends (or family). I talk about personal things only to people I don't know irl. I always think about what people think about me.
-> Only time (and effort) will tell.
- At first, if I get to know a person I like by instinct, I idealize them too much, and it takes month (by experience) to stop this. Also, I become extremely clingy, and even jealous at times. Envy is possible too, but usually unlikely in this case.
-> I just need to rely less on empotions and more on observation.
- My memory is really bad, but for some reason I can remember mostly all bad things that happened to me and all insults, etc.. Because of this I hold many (lifetime) grudges with quite a lot of people. I am touchy and cranky.
-> I need to let bygones be bygones. I could try some excercises to improve my memory; might work.
- I tend to lose contact with people if I stop seeing them irl.
-> ?
- For some unknown reason, I tend to be "invisible" when in a group.
-> ?
- Apparently I'm a big complainer too. According to some I can criticize any thing in existence. And noone likes a person who complains most of the time, so I try to suppress this.
-> I need to avoid complaining if it's not strictly necessary or meaningful
- I have some issues with my "identity". I'm always redefining myself, or more in particular, testing my opinions, or getting new ones, if I realize some are missing for a particular topic.
-> ?
- I doubt myself. I doubt my thoughts. I doubt what I think are my thoughts. I think I doubt my thoughts XD You can see where this is going lol
-> ?
- at times I just hate myself
-> ?
- I am too direct and confrontational, but only with the people I care about. This however backfires quite some times.
-> this may be a bad trait on some occasions, but I don't want to get rid of it.
this is very far from being a full list... if other bad traits come to mind, I'll add them here. Oh and I actually improved a lot lately and so I didn't include some "old" ones.