Suddenly jumping out of my shell - will it creep people out?

[Pheenix]

I am in my first year of high school. I started some 8 months ago. I have been asocial because in the beginning I lacked social skills, and after that, I was burdened by homework because of mild apathy. I am some 13 written assignments behind I need to finish. But I am finally ready and able to jump out of my shell and start being social.

But now being known as the person who bails the parties and walks home without bidding farewells, how will people think of it? I am sure they will be surprised and all, that's fine, what I'm thinking is more like this: perhaps it feels wrong to hang out with the kid who was weird a second ago? Perhaps they'd rather avoid me because of what I've "become"? I'm just thinking maybe it's uncomfortable for THEM. Of course I will have to move all out eventually, but when and how is the question. What'dya'll think?

 

[I'm Fine]

Personally I think that the sooner you DO move out and socialise more, the sooner they'll be able to adjust to the change and re-evaluate their opinion of you. The longer you stay being quiet, the more they'll think that's all you are and the longer it will take them to realise you've changed. If you're going to do it, do it quickly. But be prepared for them to not understand that things have changed. People hate change, as a broad sweeping generalisation, and may not be initially happy to have you break out of the role they've put you in. Give it time, stick at it and they'll adapt.

Good luck and remember that's my own PERSONAL opinion. I could be horribly wrong (and often am). Do what you FEEL/THINK is right for you.

 

[redrotary13b]

Nah, if you were like 30 something, it might be signs for help. You're in high school, act crazy while you can without the heavier consequences.

 

[Brian]

Well Pheenix, ignore everything else and consider two things:

1. Overcoming your anxieties or fears now, and becoming who you want to be, is an investment in your future. It only gets harder with age.

2. High school is absolutely temporary and irrelevant, and no importance should be wasted on it beyond getting your piece of paper and maybe some college credits.

It's possible people will look at you funny now. But in six years, it will be the 'normal you', and that is what matters. Not what some tween thinks of you now. Play the game, don't get consumed by it. When I broke out as an adult, people were a little surprised, but all in all they were happy, because I was happy.

This is an investment. Two years or so ago I put some money in to silver starting from $17 an ounce. A couple of times I was very inconvenienced, because my work hours at the time were highly variable and rarely did I get a 40 hour work week.

Silver is near $40 an ounce now. I made a wise choice.

What is the wise thing to do in your situation?

 

[alonewanderer]

Rule #1, don't give 2 craps about what other people think and do you.

 

[Pheenix]

Thanks all.

I do not have a problem as in being afraid of what people will think of me, I just wanna make sure not to cause inconvenience. I'm thinking how do I ease in for their sake.