Hi everyone,
I just joined here and I can relate to so many of the issues listed throughout this site...which do I address first? Loneliness, lack of friends, can't find a mate, screwed up family/childhood...
So I thought I'd start with something simple, and that would fit with the mood I'm in at the moment: How do you deal with repeated failures in life? I hope this doesn't come across as "whiney" but it seems that 90% of everything I do ends in failure. A few examples:
Several attempts at my own business were flops; this includes my current career as a graphic designer, I have been completely unsuccessful as a freelancer and always have to rely on employment agencies and contractors for work. Previously I tried to start my own medical transcription biz; spent $2K on the equipment...ended up giving it away on eBay.
Another failure is my website where I sell Christmas ornaments that I make (don't worry, admins, I won't use this forum to spam about my other sites!); it generates $0 so I end up putting them on eBay where I sell a few if I'm lucky. Last year a catalog contacted me about making kits out of my designs. I got so excited and thought, wow, I've finally made something of this. What did I get? $70 per ornament, and that's it (no, my name doesn't appear anywhere on the kits).
I recently started my own forum to combat online rudeness and have yet to have a single person join.
I've spent tons of $$$ on online dating sites; big disappointment there (yes, I've tried the free ones as well). I'll save the details for another post.
I won't even get into my failed marriage (again, that's for another post)
On the smaller end, I have a blog that nobody reads; I post stuff on Facebook and nobody comments, "likes" or "shares."
Sometimes I wonder if I'm even alive (or dead like that guy in "The Sixth Sense").
So how do you "ignore" your life of failures and keep trying to have something positive to talk about in your life? The online dating experience made me want to create a forum where you could post your internet dating horror stories -- but I stopped myself and said why bother, nobody will join...
I can't even come to an internet message board without encountering failure -- most of the time either nobody responds or I get the rudest response ever (which prompted me to create that forum). Hopefully this won't happen here, right?
How do you NOT become negative when you're surrounded by so much negativity?
I'm guessing everyone will say "look at the positive aspects of your life"...well, there ain't much to say there. I'm 44, divorced, no children, no real friends (I enjoyed reading the threads about why its so hard these days to make/keep friends, glad to see I'm not alone)...
Don't worry, I'm not suicidal (although I do take rx for depression, which I sufferred from severely my entire life).
Well thanks for listening, and you have any advice I'm open to hearing it!
I just joined here and I can relate to so many of the issues listed throughout this site...which do I address first? Loneliness, lack of friends, can't find a mate, screwed up family/childhood...
So I thought I'd start with something simple, and that would fit with the mood I'm in at the moment: How do you deal with repeated failures in life? I hope this doesn't come across as "whiney" but it seems that 90% of everything I do ends in failure. A few examples:
Several attempts at my own business were flops; this includes my current career as a graphic designer, I have been completely unsuccessful as a freelancer and always have to rely on employment agencies and contractors for work. Previously I tried to start my own medical transcription biz; spent $2K on the equipment...ended up giving it away on eBay.
Another failure is my website where I sell Christmas ornaments that I make (don't worry, admins, I won't use this forum to spam about my other sites!); it generates $0 so I end up putting them on eBay where I sell a few if I'm lucky. Last year a catalog contacted me about making kits out of my designs. I got so excited and thought, wow, I've finally made something of this. What did I get? $70 per ornament, and that's it (no, my name doesn't appear anywhere on the kits).
I recently started my own forum to combat online rudeness and have yet to have a single person join.
I've spent tons of $$$ on online dating sites; big disappointment there (yes, I've tried the free ones as well). I'll save the details for another post.
I won't even get into my failed marriage (again, that's for another post)
On the smaller end, I have a blog that nobody reads; I post stuff on Facebook and nobody comments, "likes" or "shares."
Sometimes I wonder if I'm even alive (or dead like that guy in "The Sixth Sense").
So how do you "ignore" your life of failures and keep trying to have something positive to talk about in your life? The online dating experience made me want to create a forum where you could post your internet dating horror stories -- but I stopped myself and said why bother, nobody will join...
I can't even come to an internet message board without encountering failure -- most of the time either nobody responds or I get the rudest response ever (which prompted me to create that forum). Hopefully this won't happen here, right?
How do you NOT become negative when you're surrounded by so much negativity?
I'm guessing everyone will say "look at the positive aspects of your life"...well, there ain't much to say there. I'm 44, divorced, no children, no real friends (I enjoyed reading the threads about why its so hard these days to make/keep friends, glad to see I'm not alone)...
Don't worry, I'm not suicidal (although I do take rx for depression, which I sufferred from severely my entire life).
Well thanks for listening, and you have any advice I'm open to hearing it!
