TheSolitaryMan
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I think I have reasonable confidence (at least when it comes to small things), but it's my self-esteem that's been lacking. Now I'm trying to change that.
Whenever I feel down, assuming I'm at home or whatever, the last few days I've started doing some stuff to try and get myself back into a positive, active mood.
1. I've started "shadowboxing", as the cool kids call it Throwing some punches makes me feel physically stronger, gets my heart rate up quickly and makes me feel more energetic. Seems to make me feel more proactive about getting things done too. Surprising how different it can make me feel.
2. I've started reinforcing my good qualities in my mind. If I said the stuff I've been thinking out loud, I'd probably sound like an absolute twit. In my head though, it seems to cut off those annoying "doubting" thoughts. I tell myself I'm a good person, I'm strong, intelligent, stuff like that.
I've even started saying this to myself in my head before I walk into a room full of people, it seems to help me make a good impact when I do actually open that mouth of mine.
3. I've tried to stop being negative about myself. I had so many strange, subconscious little thoughts like "I'm not a cool/interesting/hot/normal/confident/intelligent/strong person." Only when I stopped to dwell on it recently did I realise how much I always put myself down, nearly non-stop. Hopefully I can curb that now.
So there are my quirky "boosters". Does anyone else do anything in particular to feel good about themselves? I'd be really interested to know, because I really think feeling secure in oneself is the key to a lot of things in life
Whenever I feel down, assuming I'm at home or whatever, the last few days I've started doing some stuff to try and get myself back into a positive, active mood.
1. I've started "shadowboxing", as the cool kids call it Throwing some punches makes me feel physically stronger, gets my heart rate up quickly and makes me feel more energetic. Seems to make me feel more proactive about getting things done too. Surprising how different it can make me feel.
2. I've started reinforcing my good qualities in my mind. If I said the stuff I've been thinking out loud, I'd probably sound like an absolute twit. In my head though, it seems to cut off those annoying "doubting" thoughts. I tell myself I'm a good person, I'm strong, intelligent, stuff like that.
I've even started saying this to myself in my head before I walk into a room full of people, it seems to help me make a good impact when I do actually open that mouth of mine.
3. I've tried to stop being negative about myself. I had so many strange, subconscious little thoughts like "I'm not a cool/interesting/hot/normal/confident/intelligent/strong person." Only when I stopped to dwell on it recently did I realise how much I always put myself down, nearly non-stop. Hopefully I can curb that now.
So there are my quirky "boosters". Does anyone else do anything in particular to feel good about themselves? I'd be really interested to know, because I really think feeling secure in oneself is the key to a lot of things in life