Dear-_-Tragedy
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Every time I try to arrange a meet up with them, it's always in their favour. If they can't be bothered with me they just don't reply at all or return a call 95% of the time. I feel like a robot they text commands at like "we're out tonight meet us at 'x' place) then I'm supposed to come running or I won't see them ever. Then they wipe me out of their world by just ignoring every attempt to contact them when I would like to meet/arrange something.
I would love to arrange an event but no one respects me enough to listen to dates/venues because if does not involve alcohol. The worst is when they tell me a time and place and then never confirm even when I ask. They seem to just turn their phone off. Whatever happened to the common courtesy of letting someone know an event is cancelled or they don't want you there? I would much prefer to know rather than sit there unable to go to other things in case they ignorantly say "where were you last night?".
It's mostly due to how they all have girlfriends now accept for me. I am such a black sheep that they probably feel as awkward as I do when I'm out with them. Being 9th wheel is not good. For one I'm never included in their conversations and two I look like a loser who they felt obligated to bring out with them like a stray dog.
I then decide to cool off and just accept this type of loneliness and exclusion. If they don't want to bother communicating with me then I'll just wait till they do, get on with my life. I know I sick of being the one who texts/calls answerphones. But then I just gradually get depressed for lack of social interaction.
The good news is I'm making new friends at uni who are responsive, but I'm weary that it's the 'honeymoon phase'.
Does anyone have advice?
I would love to arrange an event but no one respects me enough to listen to dates/venues because if does not involve alcohol. The worst is when they tell me a time and place and then never confirm even when I ask. They seem to just turn their phone off. Whatever happened to the common courtesy of letting someone know an event is cancelled or they don't want you there? I would much prefer to know rather than sit there unable to go to other things in case they ignorantly say "where were you last night?".
It's mostly due to how they all have girlfriends now accept for me. I am such a black sheep that they probably feel as awkward as I do when I'm out with them. Being 9th wheel is not good. For one I'm never included in their conversations and two I look like a loser who they felt obligated to bring out with them like a stray dog.
I then decide to cool off and just accept this type of loneliness and exclusion. If they don't want to bother communicating with me then I'll just wait till they do, get on with my life. I know I sick of being the one who texts/calls answerphones. But then I just gradually get depressed for lack of social interaction.
The good news is I'm making new friends at uni who are responsive, but I'm weary that it's the 'honeymoon phase'.
Does anyone have advice?