hitch1983
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Hi, ive been seeing a girl now for 2 months.
It started off great - the first 2/3 weeks were magical and awesome.
Then things suddenly became more difficult to where its reached its point now.
I have my issues, being on here you can likely guess what they are.
she also has her demons and past baggage.
But shes conquered them better than me, however my issues are irrelevant to this post.
I just wanted to get advice on what she said to me and if its realistic or unreasonable or am i being stupid and not understanding!
Basically the story is, her parents have a holiday home down near me, how i ended up meeting her.
But she piped up last night that she didnt want me anywhere near the place and didnt want my brother in law who works where the holiday home is to acknowledge her parents, as she said she wants to keep the holiday home sacred for her parents, a place they can go and be strangers. Now i get that point. but is it not unrealistic demand.
you might say no, of course not, and i would agree with you but heres why i think its unreasonable.
Her past has made her extremely guilty about how she treated her parents and she feels a debt to them to try make it back up to them.
Ive met her parents but only because of circumstance, not purposely planned. THey are a nice couple but because of my gfs past repuatation on previous partners, they dont really want anything to do with me, or thats the impression im getting.
think im just another guy shes chased, so they dont want me in there house never mind there holiday home. and they dont want my family connections ruining there holiday home experience, when they think im just another guy shes with.
shes never met my family, she knows about my brother in law because i told her, he works there. and she asked me to tell him not basically pretend they dont exist when they are there.
i feel this is unrealistic because i feel it says to me, ill never be allowed to get close to her. she doesnt want to meet my family either.
so im starting to think im just gonna be this weekend guy, she sees sometimes, till she either gets bored or life gets in the way.
how can she possibly demand such a thing, surely if she wants a relationship with me, my family come with me, how can i date her and say to luke, dont talk to her or her parents?
It started off great - the first 2/3 weeks were magical and awesome.
Then things suddenly became more difficult to where its reached its point now.
I have my issues, being on here you can likely guess what they are.
she also has her demons and past baggage.
But shes conquered them better than me, however my issues are irrelevant to this post.
I just wanted to get advice on what she said to me and if its realistic or unreasonable or am i being stupid and not understanding!
Basically the story is, her parents have a holiday home down near me, how i ended up meeting her.
But she piped up last night that she didnt want me anywhere near the place and didnt want my brother in law who works where the holiday home is to acknowledge her parents, as she said she wants to keep the holiday home sacred for her parents, a place they can go and be strangers. Now i get that point. but is it not unrealistic demand.
you might say no, of course not, and i would agree with you but heres why i think its unreasonable.
Her past has made her extremely guilty about how she treated her parents and she feels a debt to them to try make it back up to them.
Ive met her parents but only because of circumstance, not purposely planned. THey are a nice couple but because of my gfs past repuatation on previous partners, they dont really want anything to do with me, or thats the impression im getting.
think im just another guy shes chased, so they dont want me in there house never mind there holiday home. and they dont want my family connections ruining there holiday home experience, when they think im just another guy shes with.
shes never met my family, she knows about my brother in law because i told her, he works there. and she asked me to tell him not basically pretend they dont exist when they are there.
i feel this is unrealistic because i feel it says to me, ill never be allowed to get close to her. she doesnt want to meet my family either.
so im starting to think im just gonna be this weekend guy, she sees sometimes, till she either gets bored or life gets in the way.
how can she possibly demand such a thing, surely if she wants a relationship with me, my family come with me, how can i date her and say to luke, dont talk to her or her parents?