Triple Bogey said:
Sod's law !
Nice friendly women are married or spoken for.
Single women don't like me.
Women who are interested in me are horrible.
It's a game I cannot win !
I have to watch myself very closely, to make sure my thoughts don't come out the same way. I have a pile of notes that I've taken from various sources on how to change my identity. I read it twice a day, once in the morning and once at night, sometimes aloud so that it sinks in.
I'm not finding fault with you, Bogey, just saying it seems from your other posts that you're in an unhappy but comfortable rut. It's going to stay just like that for the rest of your life, you know, if you don't change something, do something differently. I believe "be yourself" is bull, if you don't like what "yourself" has been getting you. You have to change your identity if you want to change your results.
Why don't single women like you?
Is that the objective truth, or just your beliefs?
What could you do to increase their chances of liking you? Don't say nothing. While there's no one-size-fits-all answer, there are some common traits in men that will help you, like good posture, remembering to smile, changing the tone of your voice, things like that.
I always thought positivity was nonsense but it's a factor.
One of the biggest things I remember from the girl I like was, when I asked her what was wrong with me, she said something along the lines of "I like everything about you, except for this 'I am totally doomed to never be good enough' thing".
What do you want in a woman, and what are the common traits that all the women you've liked have had?
Why are the women who like you, horrible?
What do you think you are doing to attract only such women?
I could give you my sources if you want. It's good stuff, but the only problem is it's easy to get lost in the pages and pages of self-help without actually transforming.
WallflowerGirl83 said:
I go on my cruise in 10 days! =D
That's cool. Where are you going? I've never been on a big ship before, only a car ferry. Even that was exciting though...I remember on my way back from vacationing on an island in Michigan, it was one of the smaller ferries, so the waves were so big that the boat dipped with the waves and they splashed on the deck. I had to hang on for dear life so I didn't get swept overboard! It was fun.
