well....just start off slow and lower your expectations...
You know...you didn't get a black belt over nite.
Apply what you learn from matial arts into other area of your life.
Allow yourself to reach out.
Allow yourself to be yourself.
Allow yourself to be a dork.
Allow yourself to be cool.
Allow yourself to make mistakes.
Allow yourself to learn from your mistakes.
Allow yourself to try new activities.
Allow yourself to love yourself and be kind to yourself.
You don't always have to engauge in a serious conversation to inneract with people. No need to impress people.
Relationship is establish over time...Experince it for whatever it is at the moment.
Learn how to listen to people. Try not to cut people off when they're talking.
Ask questions about people...not seriouse questions. Just simple questions.
Kind of like sparing with a partner...back and forth...back and forth to keep a conversation going,
one thing leads to another or shifting a conversation.
Try making little changes in your routine..such as going to a park, mall
or maybe reserch for community activities in area.
maybe do volunteer work in your area...it's a good way to meet people.
Small changes are more obtainable and less overwhelming, Then you simply
build on top of each small changes. Series of small changes= a lot of changes.
Over a period of time..you will relized...wow, that's alot of changes.
The same as building your body strength. You didn't get stronge overnite.
Maybe you can ask your martial art instructor to introduce to you about principle of matial arts
and apply those principles in your life.
Such as...persistant, courage, facing your fears, letting go, balance, being center, gratitude
focus, acceptence...not thinking so much, being in the moment, live with every breathe..
You can try going in the chat room and practice inneracting with people.
Use that as a bridge or practice then apply it in your real life.
That's what I did and it helped me to get out of my funk or rut.
Keep reaching out...
