heretostay
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ive started to think that what makes people depressed is that we have so much to share, but no where to share it. in daily social life its not appropriate to delve into the deep meanderings of our souls, and so we have to hold in what is really important to us. we have to entertain idle, superficial chat all day long, and its exhausting to have to hold back all that we really feel. for the most part its easy to just not talk at all. at least, i am starting to realize this is how i feel. i have so many experiences that are so intense but i have no one i can share them with- no one that would understand or appreciate it.
and its even more then that. depressed people are needy people and others cant give us what we need. its no fault of theirs and i dont think its a flaw of ours, either. its just the way it is, but it does divide us emotionally.
However, I had the best experience today. i went to a group session with people that are like me. it was awesome. its like taking this forum and making the people physically present for an hour. this forum is a safe place to spill our feelings, to feel a sense of connection, yet there's enough space that we are comfortable and we can walk away when its over but know that it'll be there when we need it. its not a constant pressure. And that's just what this group is. there's no pressure to be anything other then what you are.
The first person to talk in the group said he felt lonely but, he said, how could he ever say that to his family, or to his friends. It was so touching and sincere, i **** near started crying. how strange that he could say that to a group of strangers and not to his own family. that is how it is though. so strange.
I think i may have helped another member deal with some unresolved issues with a past friendship, and that felt good too.
So it was a good day, which as you all know, for most of us is a rarity. I feel like i connected with people on a real level. if any of you have the opportunity to join a group i highly recommend you do.
and its even more then that. depressed people are needy people and others cant give us what we need. its no fault of theirs and i dont think its a flaw of ours, either. its just the way it is, but it does divide us emotionally.
However, I had the best experience today. i went to a group session with people that are like me. it was awesome. its like taking this forum and making the people physically present for an hour. this forum is a safe place to spill our feelings, to feel a sense of connection, yet there's enough space that we are comfortable and we can walk away when its over but know that it'll be there when we need it. its not a constant pressure. And that's just what this group is. there's no pressure to be anything other then what you are.
The first person to talk in the group said he felt lonely but, he said, how could he ever say that to his family, or to his friends. It was so touching and sincere, i **** near started crying. how strange that he could say that to a group of strangers and not to his own family. that is how it is though. so strange.
I think i may have helped another member deal with some unresolved issues with a past friendship, and that felt good too.
So it was a good day, which as you all know, for most of us is a rarity. I feel like i connected with people on a real level. if any of you have the opportunity to join a group i highly recommend you do.