Big Boobs! Just joking. Big beautiful eyes are nice though.
I can't speak for anyone else but myself. After much adult reflection here's some of my tops;
My #1 thing is be real, don't be a contrived pretentious fake who wears masks to attract someone. If you don't know who the fresia you are then stay out of relationships until you do. It's selfish to do anything different because I promise you your covers will get pulled off the bed sooner or later. You will be exposed, naked, the real person will come out always.
Loyalty, hands down. Men are like dogs, they'll be loyal to the end if you just treat them good and rub their belly once a day
- Women, at least the ones I've met are only loyal to the fraternity of women, men although desired sexually are still the outsiders. Past that the women I've encountered are loyal to no one but themselves. That doesn't mean all are, I'm no pessimist but thus far that's what I have found.
intelligence, I need to have conversations with someone who can at least be interested in scalar physics, metaphysics or even Monty Python (comedy). Or at a minimum a person who loves learning new things as much as I do either alone or together. I'm attracted to Geek girls, really the inner geek!
Be equal! The bible is bullshit. No one has to be submissive (unless they like kink that is). Women have had centuries of male dominated religions, no wonder they take such solace in the girls club. Be equal! Say it again Be Equal! I'm not willing to baby sit my GF and constantly tell her what to do, that's the last thing I want. Who's got time for that?
Me time: Someone who will give me enough space as not to smother me without thinking there's another woman some where, I don't require tremendous amounts of me time but I do need some. I'm a song writer, it's the only passion I have in life. If you take that away from me I'm the equivalent of a flat inter tube. I was raised in a conservative family who knew nothing of the arts and was denied the only thing I ever wanted in life, that was to teach music. I declared my major my freshman year and was thrown out of my home onto the street, I was homeless the summer I graduated. Now I'm a man with a recording studio on a mission, lead follow or gtf out of the way
The Arts: I would probably have nothing in common with a bank manager.
Greed: If money is all you desire gtfo!
Humanity: Be compassionate toward your fellow human beings. Don't stick them on a line with a gun and tell them they cant be who they are between dodging bullets. Feed the homeless and lift up the downtrodden. Love your mother no matter how bad she angers you. Always question authority, it's your patriotic duty. Always have the ability to live in someone else's shoes, if you don't you're a selfish self serving ******* ******. Treat the elderly with kindness and compassion always, never break this rule.
Shallow people are the ultimate turn off, I don't give a flying rats ass what miley cyrus is smoking, who shes ******* or what her new tattoo says. Gibson not Prada, fender not Gucci, Libraries not Chanel, Dio not Dior.
Be yourself, Know yourself: I watched almost every female in LA for a year carry the same Gucci hand bag, baaaaa baaaaa. You don't need what everyone else has, the Kardashians is a ******* television show, it's not real. Know where the illusion starts not when it ends. Think for yourself.
Sex: Sex is fun, let go. Hang up's are a turn off. Passion is sexy and beautiful, making love is beautiful not bad or ugly. If you want to have sex with other people then let your significant other do the same. Don't be a selfish asshat and screw around in a magnanimous relationship. There's no excuse no matter what you're telling yourself, leave first, have some integrity.
Have a sense of humor, don't take yourself seriously. Laugh at yourself, we're all dumb asses at one time or another and it's funny.
Don't take your self anger out on others. Know the difference when you're mad at yourself or someone else.
If you haven't figured out the simple truth in life: You reap what you sow, what comes around goes around, you get what you give then get a clue. Everything you put out there will come back to you ALWAYS!
Say what's on your mind, if you can't and you get angry about it you're just a pathetic passive aggressive who can't ever be heard. Who's fault is that?
Don't be manipulative, it's easy to do without you even realizing it. Constantly take inventories of yourself to make sure you are being good to your partner.
Love: if you're not a touchy feely person then don't date someone who is. Seriously, take the Meyers Briggs and see if you're compatible. It costs nothing but 30 minutes of time. Men, go and hug your other half for no reason, just hold them for 2 minutes and connect. Sometimes people just need that, do it even if you don't want to.
Most importantly, be excellent to one and other and....... Party on Dudes! (and dudettes!)