When and How to say 'No'

[BrokenInside]

I am a people-pleaser and i find it very difficult to say "No' to others and most of the time i get myself in to trouble by saying 'Yes'. So here are two links for all those who need to learn this.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-relief/SR00039

http://michaelhyatt.com/how-to-say-no.html

 

[perfanoff]

Good read. I liked that yes-no-yes thing. I learned a similar thing back a while ago as presenting bad news by sugar-coating it between pleasantries so it's positive-negative-positive, it seems like it takes some of the "sting" from that you're telling the other person something they wouldn't like to hear.

 

[LoneKiller]

I am a people-pleaser and i find it very difficult to say "No' to others and most of the time i get myself in to trouble by saying 'Yes'. So here are two links for all those who need to learn this.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-relief/SR00039

http://michaelhyatt.com/how-to-say-no.html

Can you loan me $300?

 

[Walley]

where have you been all my life?
most women seem to have the opposite problem!

 

[monkeysocks]

I like this thread

 

[Lost Drifter]

I’ve always followed the advice of Zammo and the Grange Hill gang myself...

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[monkeysocks]

http://michaelhyatt.com/how-to-say-no.html
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Lol LK


Very good advice in those links.

Sometimes by not saying no even comes back and bites you on the ass.

Good topic

 

[BrokenInside]

Good read. I liked that yes-no-yes thing. I learned a similar thing back a while ago as presenting bad news by sugar-coating it between pleasantries so it's positive-negative-positive, it seems like it takes some of the "sting" from that you're telling the other person something they wouldn't like to hear.

Thanks Perfanoff. Yeah...breaking a bad news is another tough thing to do. Most people just don't know the art of delivering a bad news to someone. Its another important issue that should be discussed.

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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-relief/SR00039

http://michaelhyatt.com/how-to-say-no.html

Can you loan me $300?

Yes-No-Yes

 

[Wessik]

So, Mr. Anderson, I have some good news It's a healthy baby boy! Also, you have AIDS and I just saved 50% off my car insurance by switching to geico.

 

[monkeysocks]

The hardest situations to say 'no' are when someone pushes a charity collection box in your face on the high street.

 

[Badjedidude]

Just say, "no" all the time.

Problem solved.

 

[IgnoredOne]

Just say, "no" all the time.

No.

 

[Tealeaf]

The hardest situations to say 'no' are when someone pushes a charity collection box in your face on the high street.

I remember I walked into a public library once and there were some elderly women running a fundraiser out front. As I passed them one of them said "You're ignoring us."

Just say, "no" all the time.

No.

No.

 

[monkeysocks]

The hardest situations to say 'no' are when someone pushes a charity collection box in your face on the high street.

I remember I walked into a public library once and there were some elderly women running a fundraiser out front. As I passed them one of them said "You're ignoring us."

Just say, "no" all the time.

No.

No.

Thats bad, if someone said that to me I would have gone back and said

'actually I was going for change, but as you have been so rude I won't bother'.

So agree with Badjedidude on that occasion and said 'NO'