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...do you want somebody to cheer you up, or do inspirational messages just sound patronizing, and you'd rather wallow in your misery for a while?
I get the latter a lot. I think mainly I just seem to need to experience negative emotions for a while in order to properly get over them. If I try to ignore them, they just get worse.
And I think "patronizing" is the best word for how inspirational messages sound when I'm feeling this way. They just sound so impersonal, and for someone to make me feel better, they need to actually know what I'm going through, and think about it, and personalize their advice.
On the other hand, sometimes people do actually do that, and manage to strike just the right chord. In that case, it cheers me up, and that's nice.
What about you?
I get the latter a lot. I think mainly I just seem to need to experience negative emotions for a while in order to properly get over them. If I try to ignore them, they just get worse.
And I think "patronizing" is the best word for how inspirational messages sound when I'm feeling this way. They just sound so impersonal, and for someone to make me feel better, they need to actually know what I'm going through, and think about it, and personalize their advice.
On the other hand, sometimes people do actually do that, and manage to strike just the right chord. In that case, it cheers me up, and that's nice.
What about you?