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We are all capable of love and of being loved; the key is confidence. If you say to yourself, "I'm a loner and a loser, no one will ever love me" then it becomes a self-fulfiling prophesy. If you are confident in who you are - regardless of how many friends you have - then people will recognize...

The woods are lovely, dark and deep But I have promises to keep And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. Nobody here better give up. Life contains a greater capacity for happiness and wonder (and yes, also for sadness and despair) than any of us can realize. We all have...

I know how you feel. This year I turned 21, and although a few people came out with me I realized as we sat in the bar I didn't have anything in common with any of them anymore (they were mostly acquaintances from freshman year). But never let your loneliness turn you bitter or breed malice...

Thanks for your words, Vanillacreme. It's easy to buy into despair, to get into a "stuff-is-always-this-way-why-would-it-be-different" type of thinking; but then, I see that happiness is not that far off, and it is within my ability to achieve it.

Suzy, I know exactly how you feel. It gets me depressed when people talk about how much they love their friends, because I think: why not me? I'm a fun person, and I have plenty of love to give. Why don't I have that? Don't let it make you bitter. It isn't a judgment on you; sometimes random...

I wanted to share a mini-revelation I had the other day that I hope will help the other people on this site. I have realized two very important things: 1. We are all in this together. This website brings together enough lonely, atomized people to prove to me that there is something universal and...

Amen. Have some confidence in yourself - while being careful to avoid excessive pride or arrogance - and good things will follow. Life is too long to have bad luck forever. Recognize that all experiences are temporary, and that in the long run we will all pass through up times and down times...

You know Brian, you are absolutely right. Last night, I was getting incredibly down on myself because of this higher up position on my college newspaper that I decided, after much contemplation, to turn down. I was convincing myself I would regret the decision forever, and I could feel the void...

Thanks zraskolnikov, gothmother and Brian. I know you all are right, that the key is doing away with negative thoughts and finding my niche. The problem is, it becomes self-perpetuating. My depression leads to sleep loss, which leads me to feel more detached, which leads me to question myself...

How did it come to this? This hopelessness, this feeling of being on the outside looking in? Yesterday I met up with some acquaintances from high school (friends may be too strong a word) to play football and the whole time I was thinking, why are they happy and not me? They all know each other...

"Know that you are really not these negative feelings and insecurities, they are just conditioning. The real you never changes and is spirit or awareness itself." Well said, Droplet. I joined this site a little over a week ago because I am stuck in a rut. It's my senior year of college and...

Yeah I suppose that you're right, LHM...I just feel like I'm not getting the most out of my time here, and that I'm a socially capable enough person that I should have. Maybe college is hyped up to be something better than it is; but my friends from high school and most people here at my uni...

Yeah, I'm on a team and I write for the school paper, but like you said those are more of associates than friends. Walking around campus or in class, I see plenty of people I know, but it all seems superficial you know? So much of it is based on living situation, and I ended up being isolated...

did anyone here not enjoy college as much as they feel they should? I am a college senior and, although I am generally a pretty friendly outgoing guy, I have kind of gotten stuck living with the same kids and as a result don't have many close friends. im afraid that this negative experience will...

So, I'm a senior in college and like everyone else here I'm lonely. I was never all that happy in high school, but like everyone else I thought it would change in college. But now it's my senior year and, largely because I got stuck living with the same kids I wasn't all that into and didn't...