Recent content by lonely_visionary

Thank you so much. It means the world to me when occasionally someone thinks I am not mad. You made my day.

A very good question. Being lonely has a very big impact on how I work. It means I lack feedback, chase dead ends, and get discouraged. To make it worse, sometimes I despair: I came to this forum to find people like me, and have only confirmed that I am truly and forever alone. I am not here...

Who is the loneliest person here? Let's have a competition. It might be fun, in a gallows humor sort of way. I'll start. I'm lonelier than you, because: 1. I live in a very remote area 2. I'm one of the older ones here - I've been lonely since before you were born. 3. I spent most of my life...

Yay! Thanks.

Male, 42, highlands of Scotland. But would walk a thousand miles to find someone who needs me. I hear this all the time. But affection and understanding are basic human needs. I need them, I cannot be happy without them, I've tried for thirty years, and it gets harder, not easier. We need love...

Hope schmope. Hope doesn't keep you warm at night. When you love someone you adapt to them, and they adapt to you. Love without compromise is not love, it's narcissism. I could disprove that very easily, but I have no interest in arguing.

I can so relate! If I could take a pill to make me love being alone, my life would be SO much easier. Yet I want to be with people, despite not fitting in, and that is the source of all my problems. I know that feeling too. Yesterday I started a blog of all those things that I want to say...

Pretty much. I disagree on some fundamentals (specifically on the nature of property), but I'm probably closer to geolibertarianism than any other established view.

I don't think families always understand loneliness. They think you cannot be lonely because you have them around. But if you see the world so differently that can make it worse: the ones you love most are strangers to you. (To clarify, all my family is in a very intense religion, and I left it...

Thanks for all the advice and suggestions. Things have calmed down a little - last week she was very angry with her ex, so started thinking about serious choices. I did not want to risk losing her, hence this thread. This week we're back on a slower and healthier trajectory. How long have I...

The thing to remember is that the audience will have forgotten you by the time the next act comes on stage. They will forget you the next time, and the next time as well, but that's how you practice. After that you will have got the hang of it and THEN they will remember you. Besides, anyone...

background: I joined this site earlier in the week because I'd met a great girl (after being lonely for far too many years), but the last date didn't feel special so I thought I was losing her. Well good news, I'm not losing her, but she says this week is the crunch decision week. So any advice...

That is so sad. The marriage ceremony used to say "for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health" but the modern dating contract seems to be "for richer and in health only." I don't know how serious your difficulties are, but for me they sound like a small price to pay if there is genuine...

This drives me crazy! Some of us here would kill for a girlfriend like that, but all we find is arms-length types. The idea of two-become-one and lifelong commitment and complete devotion is out of fashion, it's called "needy" and scorned. But that was always the romantic ideal, and until...

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