Recent content by whirlingwaltzer

I had such strong opinions on matters of the flesh before I had every type of "relations" there was to have and now I think there's nothing that needs "fixing" about someone who has chosen celebacy or, for that matter, who craves an open relationship. I used to assume that sex equalled intimacy...

There are so many bands I can't stand but the ones that stand out when this discussion comes up are the bands I'm "supposed" to like--i.e., that other folks into your favorite bands also love. For me, that'd be Radiohead. ZZZZzzzz. I have to bang my head against a wall just to revive myself when...

Mine's from one of the Adrian Tomine New Yorker covers. I love his work and the fact that he often features bookish women. The bigger image this was taken from shows the woman atop an NYC tour bus--filled with otherwise animated sightseers--in front of Radio City Music Hall reading what appears...

That's rather a brilliant observation. I have a terrible--and increasing--history of pushing people away and it wasn't until I read about chronic loneliness described as "emotional anorexia" that I realized pushing away was possibly more than getting rid of people/baggage. This book described...

Everyone is different in what they're attracted to of course, but I tend to look above and below when making judgments about a fellow's personality before properly talking to him. I definitely find that hair and shoes make the first impression for me! And I'm a complete hypocrit, because I hate...

Gosford Park was wonderful--Altman really was the king of the complicated intertwining stories. It's so hard to pull off, eh? And I love anything by Wes Anderson. My heart will always lie with The Royal Tenenbaums, but Life Aquatic is right up there. Some others I love: Heavenly Creatures...

Love Wes Anderson--even in stop motion! I just watched The Runaways on DVD and was all prepared to get defensive and disgusted with the Hollywood portrayal, but I have to say it rocked and I did indeed forget it was Dakota Fanning and Kristen Stewart. Wish I'd tracked it down in the theatre...

I feel entirely the same way although, ironically, I have a child and hence "have a family" and having my son actually sent me into a tailspin of anxious loneliness that was always lurking beneath the surface. I'm 38--39 in a couple of weeks--and there is a horrible nagging feeling piled on top...

Lost soul, I don't know where you live, but my son is PDD-NOS (high functioning; a lot like Asperger's) and I am involved in the local Asperger's association. There are a LOT of resources through them: social groups, counselors, online forums. Even if you're not in the northeast of the US, you...

Hi, Colin! I am going to be 39 next week and Glasgow is one of my absolute favorite cities. I've spent a good deal of time there and I miss it. I have some great friends there that I've met through music (we're all big glasgow indie fans) and stay with when I can afford to travel. My ex is...

I've been there--more than once. I completely understand and feel your pain. I hope you take solace in the fact that you are NOT alone in feeling this way. I have to say that admitting myself to a hospital for a week snapped me out of it and gave me the safety and like-minded companionship...

I think it's a phenomenal book. I have been taking notes like a fiend. It's revolutionized the way I think of my loneliness. I am actively looking for a new therapist who is trained in the--still-controversial--thinking that loneliness is not self-inflicted. I related a great deal to the concept...

Hi there, *seeing_stars* I'm a mum too--and a newbie here. PM me any time.

How do. I'm a mostly "closeted" lonely person--I hide my true emotions due to the shame of admitting loneliness, etc. I come across as chatty and extroverted in most settings--the queen of sarcastic banter in the office, etc., but, really, I'm overwhelmed by feelings of isolation and a lack of...

Hi outdoor girl. Am not from West Yorkshire but went to Leeds Uni, so lived there 3 years. I'm nearly 39 (can't believe it...) and live back in the States now. I'm always up for a chat about W. Yorks. PM me and we can swap e-mails if you like.