TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Must...not...reply...to idiots! (different site)
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TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
So I'm on another site. And it turns out, it has its token, off-the-deep-end conservatives that just go on and on.
Their arguments are just so frustrating. They clearly don't understand what they're talking about. They just repeat buzzwords and phrases. Part of me wants to yell at them and insult them.
I have to tell myself - don't get into these political discussions again. Break the habit. Get out of the vicious cycle.
It won't do anything to make me successful or interesting, which is what I really care about.
Come on Ska, you don't have all the time in the world for this.
It won't do anything to get any women interested in me - they don't care about this stuff.
It will just make me a "creepy politics guy" instead of a guy to talk to and connect with.
If all I do is rant about politics, and not talk about fun stuff, I'm not going to get anywhere with anyone.
I have to remind myself, don't fall into these same patterns of behavior again, that you know don't work for what you want. I know better. Stop doing this.
Their arguments are just so frustrating. They clearly don't understand what they're talking about. They just repeat buzzwords and phrases. Part of me wants to yell at them and insult them.
I have to tell myself - don't get into these political discussions again. Break the habit. Get out of the vicious cycle.
It won't do anything to make me successful or interesting, which is what I really care about.
Come on Ska, you don't have all the time in the world for this.
It won't do anything to get any women interested in me - they don't care about this stuff.
It will just make me a "creepy politics guy" instead of a guy to talk to and connect with.
If all I do is rant about politics, and not talk about fun stuff, I'm not going to get anywhere with anyone.
I have to remind myself, don't fall into these same patterns of behavior again, that you know don't work for what you want. I know better. Stop doing this.
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Gozo
Active member
Arguing with a smart person is difficult
Arguing with a dumb person is impossible
Me too.
I usually get invlolved in arguing with someone who doesn't undersdtand properly what is written and interpretate in way they like(work). I just can't keep quite when they say something like "Today is Friday" when it's Wednesday, I usually start with "but look at the calendar" and then find myself deep in a stupid arguing
In some way I don't know what to do, to agree it's Friday? Last time I found the laws and quoted them.... didn't help ) Just a waste of time(well, now I know for sure that these laws do exists and are not my fake memories)
What stuff? Politics? I could imagine, I'm a"fake" woman, but some other of them are even politicians
And I'm sure they are "real" and some of therm are quite beauitiful. (though I do agree with other part)Well, anywhere sometimes it's just useless to argue... but sometimes it can be interesting to find out others points of view. The trick is to tell one from another and don't get into the first.
Silverforest
Well-known member
Letting something be for now.
Not because I want to but because it's the right thing to do.
Not because I want to but because it's the right thing to do.
TheRealCallie
Princess Pink Love
This seems to be making rounds on Facebook. Everyone is posting it. So guys (and girls), chill out, sometimes honeysuckle happens and we forget. Not because we are ghosting you or whatever idea you come up with, but because life happens.
today is my wife's and my 26th wedding anniversary. it saddens me that it couldn't be a happier time.
Today when I was dumping some green waste at the tip, a big grasshopper landed inside the rear tray just before I wanted to close it up. I reached in and he climbed up my gloved hand, which I raised to the air and he flew off.........only to be snatched midflight by a passing sparrow.
Well, you've fed the sparrow after all and I love them.Today when I was dumping some green waste at the tip, a big grasshopper landed inside the rear tray just before I wanted to close it up. I reached in and he climbed up my gloved hand, which I raised to the air and he flew off.........only to be snatched midflight by a passing sparrow.
Abstamyous
Well-known member
If you don't get a response from me, I've probably forgotten to hit send.
TheRealCallie
Princess Pink Love
Lol, I do that too.
Or my service is so bad where I live I might never have gotten your text or mine might not have gone through.
Silverforest
Well-known member
Life is easy. Except when it isn't.
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TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Do I say something because someone is such a massive idiot that I need to say something to counter it?
Or is it because they are such a massive idiot, that is exactly why I should say nothing, because all it will do is aggravate me and I don't have the time, energy, or emotions to spare on it?
I made up my mind, I'm saying nothing.
I don't have time for this bs. When I argue with people online, I forget that I actually don't have all the time in the world. I'm putting my life on hold...just to talk to people I don't even like, convince them of nothing, and to make no progress in any direction. It doesn't make sense. I'm going to let the dumbasses think what they want, they'll never be convinced anyway until they are personally hurt by their own beliefs and understand that's why they're hurting, and even that is a maybe. It's not my job or destiny to change them, though. The sooner I stop caring, the happier I'll be.
Instead I think I need to try to focus my energy and time into getting temp work because tax season is coming up. Could be a good chance to get relevant accounting experience.
I need to keep up the habit of avoiding my triggers, thinking before ranting, and refocus the energy to building up my own life.
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YES! I learned this some time ago, and wish I learned it when I was a lot younger. What a waste of time and energy and it does nothing for your inner self.
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Definitely. I wish I learned it younger too. I really wish I could go back to the start of high school (turn of the century) and do everything over again from there. That's when I started losing the plot, especially freshman year of college. It would have saved me and everyone around me so much grief...sometimes I look back and it's painful thinking about how much good time I wasted on stuff like this.
Anyway. Instead of ranting at that guy, I had a good online chat with my brother. I like to think that I made the wiser choice.
Silverforest
Well-known member
Out of sight but not out of mind.
TheRealCallie
Princess Pink Love
@TheSkaFish how exactly do you go about liking a post from two years ago?
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
@TheSkaFish how exactly do you go about liking a post from two years ago?
The arcane magic of the search box
I was actually searching something else, but that back-and-forth about Taco Bell came up in the results!
Gozo
Active member
It’s the internet. Time is meaningless.@TheSkaFish how exactly do you go about liking a post from two years ago?
TropicalStarfish
Well-known member
They should have added the option - O - "I'm a mother >.>" or father or husband or wife... heh
Onwards!
Context is probably important in a situation like this...
If that's some one's reply to...
...A death in the family
...A diagnosis of cancer
...even just, "I had a really bad day and was reaching out to someone."
...Objectively it is personal, because it involved a personal correspondence between person (A) and person (B), where person (B) explains to person (A) "I wanted to finish what I was doing first, then, forgot about you completely, then, contacted you, still having forgotten you contacted me first."
Objectively that is the definition of being inconsiderate.
However, most conflict (I think), is usually the result of a breakdown in communication, a misunderstanding, or a product of trickle down aggression, etc.. etc..
Person (B) would be better off saying: "I'm overwhelmed at the moment and choosing to isolate as a way to deal with pressing and immediate stressors. Simply put I'm preoccupied and busy with other things right now, and it's beyond my means to converse with you on a level you may want or need at this specified time." (Perhaps this is what Vulcans say when they are busy and stressed out)
The world is a f*ck right now. Prices are going up. The complexity of the world is increasing faster and faster and faster, and few people are afforded the time to understand why this is so. The largest population demographic in the world (The Boomers) are senior citizens right now, and that can be a stressful time for many. A time of reflecting on a long lived life, a time of reflecting on missed opportunities, dashed dreams. A time of dealing with health problems. And that's not to mention that AI, political unrest, and authoritarianism have been on the up-and-up for about the past seven or so years now.
I don't use Facebook personally. And there are a lot of reasons not to do so. Some of them are simple: it's not always a healthy way to interact with other people, coupled with the fact that it often gives a very inaccurate representation of what a person's life actually is. Some of them are a bit more complex: the platform builds a facial recognition database out of anyone's face that comes in contact with it (see dystopian fiction such as "1984", a "Brave New World," etc..). And then there are even more complex reasons beyond that...
So, it wouldn't surprise me at all, to see something like this, 'making the rounds,' on Facebook. Why?
Because it's emotionally charged content that presents a, 'double bind:' A: take it personal and be in the wrong. B: don't take it personal, despite the fact that, under a great many contextual circumstances, it actually is personal. Suffer the cognitive dissonance either way. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
However, what if we ask why? Why would a website and it's servers, that are engaged in information interchange, such that, people can communicate with each-other via: text, money, video, pictures, ideas, etc... such that, it may collect and make inference upon the data, so that it can sell that information to advertisers, governments, etc.. Why would a platform like this, be interested in doling out cognitive dissonance (mind f*ckery) in the form of double binds, and emotionally charged content, on a regular basis?
I don't know the why. So, let's ask another question. What are the consequences of being emotionally charged, and emotionally volatile?
Well, our ability to think rationally, calmly, and clearly, is diminished when we are angry or afraid. Anger and fear are very base emotions; they are part of circuits in our brains, that are very old, and deal primarily with immediate survival. Tiger about to eat me? You don't think you act.
So, now we can ask another question. Why would a billion dollar tech corporation that deals in AI, facial recognition, data collection, data analysis, and advertising, etc.. etc.., why would a company like this want it's users primarily engaged with lower brain function, as opposed to higher cortical function and reasoning? What's the motivation?
As for me, I have a flip-phone. It doesn't notify me when there is new activity: calls, texts, etc..
Sometime's I forget to check the phone periodically. I miss calls. I let people down in this connected world. And, it contributes to my loneliness, because I fail at, 'being there,' when others want or need me to be there, sometimes. It's difficult for people to understand, digest, and deal with complex ideas and complex circumstances, in a world with big problems none of us can really accurately meet on a level playing field. It's even difficult for me to understand that it's difficult for people to understand these things.
I'm selfish. I often think of my own problems instead of others. I often attempt to help people with their own problems, not because I actually truly understand them, but because, I just want to be 'good,' and, 'do right.'
Sometimes people are indifferent, self-absorbed, selfish, callous, and even cruel. Other times, they are just busy, stressed out, and bogged down like a great majority of us are, from time to time, and sometimes, for extremely long intervals, under the weight of immense forces beyond their control, comprehension, or even their ability to manage at all.
Like and subscribe, if you want. (*sarcasm*)
But, if you've read this far, and digested the whole thing. Thnx. That's surprising to me..
Maybe that's time we won't get back...
Either way: may your jimmies be unrustled...
...and mine too..
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