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Wanted to post to keep you thinking this way because looking at it in a problem solving manner is a very good approach. Personality is fluid, it is not set in stone despite what some people think. Your experiences and beliefs shape you and when you come to the awareness to challenge the things...

I'm definitely of the type to overthink. I've been told in both my gaming / work life that I tend to overthink everything. But while it may seem negative to others because it seems I'm under some sort of stress of overthinking, I actually enjoy it >_<. As long as you aren't repeatedly running...

I actually like being corrected and not just in the way of spelling or grammar but I mean criticism in general. As long as the correction is actually correct anyway, it can be a little silly to hear it from someone who has the right intention but delivers misinformation. In my own personal view...

Edit: Just realized you read the book >_<. I suggest reading that section about social smoking again but essentially you've invited the idea of trying the cigarette again based on your re-emerging belief that the cigarette could be enjoyable. Basically stop that from happening and relapse...

Are you so sure they're mediocre? Again this is another internal belief that may be in the way of your current thinking. How can you assume to know everything about another person? What you know about them is probably very little. Perhaps their upbringing has given them that value. It's a good...

True confidence is the result of positive internal beliefs. This is why it's difficult for someone who hates themselves to 'fake' confidence. It comes from the belief that the person has value and/or competence in the field they are exhibiting this trait. This belief is usually founded on...

Hey, I think your attitude is pretty good despite what you've been told and what you may think about yourself. When people don't want to talk to you because they consider you 'boring' or 'uninteresting' it's usually either because there's no common ground in interests or because you're really...

Hey Batman55, I've been there before and it sucks, but maybe there's a few things I can post that might make you think twice. You gotta ask yourself when you start to hate on yourself, what benefit does this give you? Does hating yourself give you any long term benefit? You might not have...

Pretty much this. I can't stress how important it is to invest in your own development. If you're in a place where you feel you aren't wanted because of your physical appearance it means you haven't developed what makes you happy about yourself. This could be anything ranging from building your...

In regards to jaguarundi's observation of racial discriminatory concern there's no doubt in my mind that the OP has developed irrational beliefs. I believe he needs to challenge these beliefs and see the big picture here. My message to him is this. You can't generalize a whole population of...

It's true what you're saying but I think the focus should be brought back to how discrimination of any kind affects the victims (in relation to the OP). The most disturbing part is that the people who are discriminated can become as bad as their tormentors developing anti social values. The...

I know you're banned but I suspect you might be able to read this at a later date. I think the reason you were bullied back when you were younger was out of your control. Kids can be pretty cruel and pick on you for irrational reasons. I was picked on during my elementary school years and I...

Posting this video because it really touched me. The speaker kinda reminded me of Sheldon from the TV show Big Bang Theory but regardless, the final piece to his story really moved me. Also note this is from TED. Andrew Solomon: How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are [video=youtube]

Completely agree, it is possible to change regardless of the age you're at, just harder to change and this can be understood if you know how to change at all. It's a subject I'm going to be building upon as it's sort of my life long dream to bring this topic to light about 'how to change' and do...

Hey no problem. And the best part about personal development is that once you get the ball rolling and start increasing your positivity, it'll make you happier. When you're happier you attract more people too, and the whole thing just goes up and up. Completely self fulfilling. People love...

You definitely can. It's been since February 7 this year that my ex-gf dumped me. She's already moved on and started dating someone else. At first I felt betrayed, angry, and pretty much cheated on but you know what I realized after weeks of drowning myself in tears of depression? I realized...

I think what you need to do because the inevitably of life is that 'honeysuckle will happen' is change how you interpret these events. Every time something bad happens you've gotta start practicing how to see how you can learn from it and move on without letting it drag you down. Life throws some...

I didn't know the difference between TEDx and TED til you brought this up which prompted me to look it up. Good to know, I guess that accounts for the difference in quality of both types of talks. It is kind of my dream one day to be up at one of these though : ), I'll settle for TEDx!

Agreed, there's nothing wrong with looking for it. I used to subscribe to the belief of letting things come to me as fate should see to it but I stopped that when I decided I wanted to change my circumstance and go get what I want. If putting yourself out there on forums, dating profiles...

Hadn't seen the first one til I saw your link here. Fairly interesting, and I'm not surprised by the answer that insecurity is a big problem in the modelling world. If a person builds their self esteem on an appearance foundation it's subject to serious problems. The opinion of others becomes...