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I'm sure it's extremely difficult. But as you said, he's a big part of your life, the best you can do is be there when he needs picking up I guess.

Yes Kristina. I do and feel that lately. I'm sorry you are feeling it too. I cry a lot, but it doesn't empty the sadness in my soul. I'm trying to fill my soul with happy/positive things to push that sadness out. It helps that I have my dogs and cats by my side. I'm also doing a lot of spiritual...

The painful truth I've had to swallow: I'm not valuable to the man I love. On a more personal note, I've had to admit that I have a temper lately and I don't like it so I'm working on that. I also think I have trust issues, so again, have to work on that.

When I was dating, if I showed interest it was because I wanted to get to know the guy. I used to online date, so for me to show interest it was because I either liked his photo or his profile. If I chose not to go on a date with him after chatting for a bit, it's because there was something...

Hi Fustar, I agree with MissBehave. You can't give advice to a person who doesn't want to hear it or take it. I'm in a similar situation so I can relate to the feelings of frustration. In fact, I was given a tip by my social worker, she said stop advising. Just be there to listen, don't give an...

I agree with you 100%. Emotional blackmail...that happened again tonight. It's horrible. I'm continuing to work on myself despite his wearing me down! I love that thank you!!! :)

I appreciate your honest response! I'm working on it! :)

I so appreciate you. For the longest time I was hiding it but something happened just before Christmas that made me "come out" so to speak. I told 3 of my closest friends who had no idea. How happy I felt that they were SUPPORTIVE. I was so afraid I'd be judged. I still talk to one of them about...

I'm grateful for having level-headed and sensitive/compassionate people support me. The positive tonight is that I got to have a quiet dinner on my own, no food got stuck, no anxiety and drama. :)

Thank you so much! I'm sorry you went through this and you're right about the self-worth. I do believe in myself. I enjoy who I am and even if he tries to instill in me that I'm a "bad person" I know I'm not!❤️❤️

I don't know you very well, but I can certainly anticipate your honest and helpful responses...Callie did you have someone like you in your life when you were trying to get out of your situation? I feel like you are there to help me, but that I'm not ready to accept the help yet, but you always...

Thank you! I was reaching out for support and your comment really helped me. For the last month or so, I've been speaking to a counsellor weekly. I am working with a self-esteem coach daily by email - the lovely angel of a lady doesn't even charge a fee because she wants to help people - I'm so...

I'm trying very hard not to have the "victim" mentality. Nobody is putting a gun to my head and forcing me to stay with an abusive partner. What is wrong with me? Why can't I just buck up and ask him to leave already? My Excuses: 1. I love him 2. We've been together 16 years 3. I know deep...

I am English-speaking, but I also speak French and a little bit of Spanish that I learned in college - I understand Spanish more than I can speak it. I always wanted to learn Italian and Gaelic actually, but lack the mental focus to follow through. And like Callie, I know many curse words in a...

Oh no, not your favourite cereal bowl! And I'm being serious! I had a favourite coffee mug that got broken too and it upset me. Well, overzealous, maybe but we all have our needs and quirks. Having that understood by our partners is a good feeling. Besides his unattractive qualities, I know that...

MissBehave: Getting stuck in the snow is scary...I'm glad you got out! I'm not a good winter driver, we have a lot of ice in this area and my tires are okay, but not made for icy conditions. Amy: Congrats on getting more sleep! Lack of sleep is so debilitating! As for me, I'm grateful for the...

I don't like to wear makeup for the most part. I used to wear lots of it when I was working. I felt it was part of the workplace for some reason, I don't know. I haven't worn any makeup for years and years. Lately though I've been thinking about a little lip gloss and maybe some eye makeup, but...

You're blowing my mind Amy. Thank you! <3

That annoys me too because I end up being the one constantly cleaning up after another adult.  You're right, a few seconds is all it takes. I don't know about you, but I feel like it's a real disrespect if it's an adult ignoring your pleas and hints. I'm getting all annoyed now just thinking...

I do appreciate your answer. Hearing all viewpoints really helps with my perspective! You're right, the 50% is very subjective... It's so great to hear wisdom from others. I never saw it like it's 50% of my life! It's true though. And March isn't playing out too well either. I came to the 50%...