I posted this story on The Experience Project website and no one responded so I'll try this site.
How can someone really not want what they greatly desire? Or am I just an idiot and lying to myself? These are two questions I frequently ask myself.
Throughout high school I've had several crushes on girls, some were friends, others were just classmates. During that time I had always told myself I don't want a romantic relationship no matter how much I thought about them. About 4 years ago I finally asked out and got rejected by a friend who I was absolutely crazy about. I really, really hated myself afterwards for giving in to what I said I would never do. In short, we're no longer friends because things between us became very awkward all because of me and how weird and somewhat annoying I became when I was around her. She doesn't know it (because I blatantly lied to her) but I took her rejection very, very hard. I was borderline suicidal and depressed for about 2 years.
I know it's all natural to desire intimacy but why can't I just be content with being independent? I've suppressed my romantic desires for so long now and I still find myself at a stalemate with them. I won't give in and I feel like I'm forever locked in this mental battle with myself with no hope of finding inner peace and contentment.
I've read several articles online that it is possible to be happy alone but in my opinion it's impossible for some people. It's so depressing that people (including my mother) say that the worst thing in the world for someone to go through is dying alone.
Is there anyone out there with the same or similar thoughts or someone who has managed to find some way to cope with their romantic desires rather than suppress them?
If not....can someone enlighten me as to what the fresia is wrong with me?
Essentially, I love having these desires but I hate the fact I don't want them and I don't believe I can reverse not wanting something.
How can someone really not want what they greatly desire? Or am I just an idiot and lying to myself? These are two questions I frequently ask myself.
Throughout high school I've had several crushes on girls, some were friends, others were just classmates. During that time I had always told myself I don't want a romantic relationship no matter how much I thought about them. About 4 years ago I finally asked out and got rejected by a friend who I was absolutely crazy about. I really, really hated myself afterwards for giving in to what I said I would never do. In short, we're no longer friends because things between us became very awkward all because of me and how weird and somewhat annoying I became when I was around her. She doesn't know it (because I blatantly lied to her) but I took her rejection very, very hard. I was borderline suicidal and depressed for about 2 years.
I know it's all natural to desire intimacy but why can't I just be content with being independent? I've suppressed my romantic desires for so long now and I still find myself at a stalemate with them. I won't give in and I feel like I'm forever locked in this mental battle with myself with no hope of finding inner peace and contentment.
I've read several articles online that it is possible to be happy alone but in my opinion it's impossible for some people. It's so depressing that people (including my mother) say that the worst thing in the world for someone to go through is dying alone.
Is there anyone out there with the same or similar thoughts or someone who has managed to find some way to cope with their romantic desires rather than suppress them?
If not....can someone enlighten me as to what the fresia is wrong with me?
Essentially, I love having these desires but I hate the fact I don't want them and I don't believe I can reverse not wanting something.