Hello. I've had an account for several years on this site but never had the motivation to actually sit down and type anything. Well here goes my pitiful tale!
I'm a 38 y.o. single (duh) male and have absolutely no friends and haven't been on a date in over 15 years.
Here's my problem: I've thought of going on various dating sites but don't know what to say without looking like a pathetic, sad-sack. I have no pics of myself except for a pic I could take of myself, but worse than that, who's going to want to respond to a guy who has no friends and hasn't been with a female in 15 years? I'm sure I could make up a bunch of stories but I hate lying and don't see the point in trying to start off a relationship with someone by being untruthful.
Back in high school my friends gradually stopped calling and wanting to hang out with me so I've cut all ties with them. Because of this I really don't have any stories to tell, I've had very few life experiences - thus I'm fairly boring. I dated a few times between 1993 and 1995 but had some bad experiences on those dates that affected my self confidence and probably scarred me so that I'm a little gun shy about dating.
The only experiences I've had with girls in the past 15 years have been with "call girls." Over the years I had met quite a few and some were regulars to whom I had become quite attached to but I never got the feeling they were "interested," plus, who would pass up the opportunity to make easy money with a guy who didn't want sex, had a nice body, was super clean and only wanted a "massage?"
I suppose my question is: should I go on a dating site and be brutally honest about my lame life and hope someone doesn't mind? I know if I came across a girl with a similar story it wouldn't bother me at all but that's coming from a guy - and lets face, most of us are pigs! And I know girls are looking for the complete opposite of what I have to offer.
I should also mention that I'm only 5'7" and don't make a ton of money being in the fitness industry so that becomes another hurdle. I've been turned down a few times and the thought of asking out a girl, at this point, is terrifying.
I'm open to any advice or suggestions.
If you had the patience to sit through my entire diatribe, way to go! And thanks.
I'm a 38 y.o. single (duh) male and have absolutely no friends and haven't been on a date in over 15 years.
Here's my problem: I've thought of going on various dating sites but don't know what to say without looking like a pathetic, sad-sack. I have no pics of myself except for a pic I could take of myself, but worse than that, who's going to want to respond to a guy who has no friends and hasn't been with a female in 15 years? I'm sure I could make up a bunch of stories but I hate lying and don't see the point in trying to start off a relationship with someone by being untruthful.
Back in high school my friends gradually stopped calling and wanting to hang out with me so I've cut all ties with them. Because of this I really don't have any stories to tell, I've had very few life experiences - thus I'm fairly boring. I dated a few times between 1993 and 1995 but had some bad experiences on those dates that affected my self confidence and probably scarred me so that I'm a little gun shy about dating.
The only experiences I've had with girls in the past 15 years have been with "call girls." Over the years I had met quite a few and some were regulars to whom I had become quite attached to but I never got the feeling they were "interested," plus, who would pass up the opportunity to make easy money with a guy who didn't want sex, had a nice body, was super clean and only wanted a "massage?"
I suppose my question is: should I go on a dating site and be brutally honest about my lame life and hope someone doesn't mind? I know if I came across a girl with a similar story it wouldn't bother me at all but that's coming from a guy - and lets face, most of us are pigs! And I know girls are looking for the complete opposite of what I have to offer.
I should also mention that I'm only 5'7" and don't make a ton of money being in the fitness industry so that becomes another hurdle. I've been turned down a few times and the thought of asking out a girl, at this point, is terrifying.
I'm open to any advice or suggestions.
If you had the patience to sit through my entire diatribe, way to go! And thanks.