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Luna
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...just back-up, potential sex partners?
I thought I had made my first friend IRL (now ex-friend) a while ago - and he mentioned something that pissed me off to a great extent.
"People only want to be friends with people that are physically attractive."
1) He stated along the lines of:
"It's how everyone secretly is. If you could have a choice between two friends - it's better to be seen with the better-looking one/ the one closer to the media's standards. It makes you look like you're "with" them and people will admire and look up to you for it."
I'm pretty sure after he said that he stared at my boobs...which were covered up btw...>_>
So it makes me wonder...do people really worry that much on who they are seen with?
I definitely don't want to care any more about other people's opinions of who they see me with considering that I had to grow up with so much unprovoked hatred towards my looks and race.
I understand that in relationships, we need to be attracted to our partner. But as friends - are many people so superficial that they cut-off/ turn away anyone who is less of the media's standards?
This fella...he didn't have many friends!
(I am no longer his friend not because of this but for other reasons.)
He often complained about his lack of friends...well, it comes as no surprise to me if looks are all he cares about in a friend.
Which brings me to my next point..
2) People in relationships that only want to be friends with people they are attracted to.
Oh yes...he and I had a go at it.
It still irks me seeing as after bringing it up with a few people; everyone agreed with his thoughts.
Do you believe people in relationships can be friends with the opposite-sex/ same-sex (if you're gay etc)?
I would like to say "Yes!"
However, I think that if your partner is only looking befriend people that he/ she would love to f*** or is strongly attracted to - I personally think there's a deeper issue.
I think in this type of scenario; the "friends" are just back-up potential sex partners. You can have your cake and eat it too!
3) Arghhh.
It's Saturday morning - cold and rainy outside...so here I go again.
I miss the innocence of friendship.
I see the little boys and girls playing with each other happily.
I've tried to befriend women - it's hard. I haven't clicked with any yet.
I've tried to befriend men - and they said we were friends - and then ended up touching me when I didn't ask for it.
It's nice to have friends that you care about and there are no strange or hidden expectations.
It pisses me off that he (and a few others) said that they'd not want to be seen with their friend if their friend became sick/ unattractive.
This is just a rant...I can't change how things work, but I suppose I can offer some reading material from a bitter young woman on Saturday morning.
:K ARGGGGH HUMANSSSSS. DESTTTRRRROYYYY.
FYI - I consider a difference between "looks" and "appearance".
Looks - What you're born with: Tall, short, big nose, small nose, brown hair, red hair, etc.
Appearance - How you groom, dress, portray yourself etc.
For my post, I'm referring to looks; not so much appearance.
I definitely understand people who do not want to be friends with someone who has red paint that looks like blood smeared all over their face and is parading in some offensive shirt like: "Slap dat *****!" "Nazi pride!" for their appearance.
I thought I had made my first friend IRL (now ex-friend) a while ago - and he mentioned something that pissed me off to a great extent.
"People only want to be friends with people that are physically attractive."
1) He stated along the lines of:
"It's how everyone secretly is. If you could have a choice between two friends - it's better to be seen with the better-looking one/ the one closer to the media's standards. It makes you look like you're "with" them and people will admire and look up to you for it."
I'm pretty sure after he said that he stared at my boobs...which were covered up btw...>_>
So it makes me wonder...do people really worry that much on who they are seen with?
I definitely don't want to care any more about other people's opinions of who they see me with considering that I had to grow up with so much unprovoked hatred towards my looks and race.
I understand that in relationships, we need to be attracted to our partner. But as friends - are many people so superficial that they cut-off/ turn away anyone who is less of the media's standards?
This fella...he didn't have many friends!
(I am no longer his friend not because of this but for other reasons.)
He often complained about his lack of friends...well, it comes as no surprise to me if looks are all he cares about in a friend.
Which brings me to my next point..
2) People in relationships that only want to be friends with people they are attracted to.
Oh yes...he and I had a go at it.
It still irks me seeing as after bringing it up with a few people; everyone agreed with his thoughts.
Do you believe people in relationships can be friends with the opposite-sex/ same-sex (if you're gay etc)?
I would like to say "Yes!"
However, I think that if your partner is only looking befriend people that he/ she would love to f*** or is strongly attracted to - I personally think there's a deeper issue.
I think in this type of scenario; the "friends" are just back-up potential sex partners. You can have your cake and eat it too!
3) Arghhh.
It's Saturday morning - cold and rainy outside...so here I go again.
I miss the innocence of friendship.
I see the little boys and girls playing with each other happily.
I've tried to befriend women - it's hard. I haven't clicked with any yet.
I've tried to befriend men - and they said we were friends - and then ended up touching me when I didn't ask for it.
It's nice to have friends that you care about and there are no strange or hidden expectations.
It pisses me off that he (and a few others) said that they'd not want to be seen with their friend if their friend became sick/ unattractive.
This is just a rant...I can't change how things work, but I suppose I can offer some reading material from a bitter young woman on Saturday morning.
:K ARGGGGH HUMANSSSSS. DESTTTRRRROYYYY.
FYI - I consider a difference between "looks" and "appearance".
Looks - What you're born with: Tall, short, big nose, small nose, brown hair, red hair, etc.
Appearance - How you groom, dress, portray yourself etc.
For my post, I'm referring to looks; not so much appearance.
I definitely understand people who do not want to be friends with someone who has red paint that looks like blood smeared all over their face and is parading in some offensive shirt like: "Slap dat *****!" "Nazi pride!" for their appearance.