firebird85
Well-known member
I'll be 21 in 3 days. I haven't had real life friends since age 15. I dropped out of high school at 16. For a long time I would stay in my house doing nothing but sleeping or using the internet. I guess you could say I kinda dropped out of life for a while, but there wasn't anything holding me back- I could have did a 180 the next day, I just chose not to, because I knew it wouldn't matter. What I was looking for didn't exist to me. Teenage crushes and going to parties with groups of people was never an option to me, still isn't, but I don't care now because I'm drug free and have a clean background. Not doing anything with my life at that time got old after a year or three, so I went back to get a G.E.D. to show my parents I was still smart. I can relate a little bit to people who say they are shut-ins, like the one guy who said he was a shut-in since 1999. I can easily go outside and stuff though, and I don't live in a cardboard box or anything like that. There's no bars on my windows.
I can understand some people who say they hate life and waking up every day, to another day of being miserable. I have road blocks in almost every part of my life, between trying to find employment to deciding on wether or not to persue higher education, experiencing relationships and going on dates with the opposite sex for the first time, connecting to the opposite sex for the very first time, and so on. These are huge road blocks for me, I don't know how to deal with them, I feel helpless. Humans are social creatures. I don't see it possible to keep living like this, with not being able to connect to anybody. Forcing myself to be social with someone is like forcing something that isn't meant to be.
After a while, you can drown it out with using the internet, watching movies or playing music, or any other hobby, especially solo hobbies. This is what most of the people I read about do in these predicaments. I don't believe a person blaming themselves for all their hardships in life is exactly the answer, I just don't.
What's the solution for everybody on this site and all over the internet that has no friends at all? Through google I can pull up all kinds of blogs, forum posts, youtube videos, comments, whatever, so many people out there that claim they are stuck in this situation. How does this affect our culture? Do you just stay at home in your room everyday doing nothing? What Do you just accept it and continue to live a double life of being satisfied on the outside but resentful on the inside and wanting to pop?
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/been-living-as-a-shut-in-since-1999-a-129423/
The great Winston Wu actually did a project on what he calls Social disconnectedness in America.
Don't under-estimate "Loners"
http://intellectualexpat.blogspot.com/2010/10/why-loners-are-more-sane-and-authentic.html
Loneliness and mental illness, an epidemic in America
http://www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Page41.htm
Ostracized from society, ostracized from life? "blaming yourself, not always the answer"
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A shut-in who feels rejected from life
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I can understand some people who say they hate life and waking up every day, to another day of being miserable. I have road blocks in almost every part of my life, between trying to find employment to deciding on wether or not to persue higher education, experiencing relationships and going on dates with the opposite sex for the first time, connecting to the opposite sex for the very first time, and so on. These are huge road blocks for me, I don't know how to deal with them, I feel helpless. Humans are social creatures. I don't see it possible to keep living like this, with not being able to connect to anybody. Forcing myself to be social with someone is like forcing something that isn't meant to be.
After a while, you can drown it out with using the internet, watching movies or playing music, or any other hobby, especially solo hobbies. This is what most of the people I read about do in these predicaments. I don't believe a person blaming themselves for all their hardships in life is exactly the answer, I just don't.
What's the solution for everybody on this site and all over the internet that has no friends at all? Through google I can pull up all kinds of blogs, forum posts, youtube videos, comments, whatever, so many people out there that claim they are stuck in this situation. How does this affect our culture? Do you just stay at home in your room everyday doing nothing? What Do you just accept it and continue to live a double life of being satisfied on the outside but resentful on the inside and wanting to pop?
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/been-living-as-a-shut-in-since-1999-a-129423/
The great Winston Wu actually did a project on what he calls Social disconnectedness in America.
Don't under-estimate "Loners"
http://intellectualexpat.blogspot.com/2010/10/why-loners-are-more-sane-and-authentic.html
Loneliness and mental illness, an epidemic in America
http://www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Page41.htm
Ostracized from society, ostracized from life? "blaming yourself, not always the answer"
[video=youtube]
[video=youtube]
A shut-in who feels rejected from life
[video=youtube]