tsar
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So I am not lonely when it comes to friends. I seem to make them easy enough but my problem is meeting a girl who wants a relationship.
So I am 26 I've never had sex I've kissed a girl when I was 17 and once again when I was 24. But it felt forced and they broke up with me a few days later. I've never had someone generally like me or even love me. Maybe I am not attractive enough or its my attitude.
So a few weeks ago I meet this girl, Afrikaans girl so there is the language and culture thing,I understand a little afrikaans and speak it a little. Shes 23 and shes been engaged twice, both guys cheated on her and I am sure the last one beat her.
We live far from each other about an hour and a bit but its nothing major. Things where going nicely, I was confident I sang to her on the phone,I spoke afrikaans to her because she thought it was cute and was really nice to her. She said I am really sweet and she doesn't know anyone like me.
Then I ask if she wants to see me sometime she agrees. But as I am on my way she said well my dad is going to be here. So I got there I was as nervous as hell I got a twitch on my cheek. But we talked a lot no awkward silence I met her dad he stared me down but I didn't back down.
I said to her I really like you she blushed and smiled laughed at my dumb jokes and kept eye contact.
As I leave she looks into my eyes and says I really really like you and I want to spend more time with you. You a really nice guy. Shed send pics of herself like look at my new hair color or I fell into the pool. Things were going nicely then bam I said I'm interested in you and I want something more than friendship. She said we just friends for now and I am not ready for a relationship. But she still chatted like if I was something more and when we got really close she backed off and barely talked to me said it isn't me she doesn't want to chat now.
She suffers from depression so maybe its that.
Warning flags. I woman I know said just keep being nice to her and be there for her. Now this weekend she met some guy. I asked if he is good looking and she had a laughing face and said he is good looking I won't lie. So I said Well if you like him I won't stop you,then she just replied with hahahaha.
Worst part is I love her and I think she likes this guy. I know having someone isn't everything but when all your friends are married or in a serious relationship no one really has the time to do things with.
I am really sorry for this all over the place post. I just don't know what to do.
So I am 26 I've never had sex I've kissed a girl when I was 17 and once again when I was 24. But it felt forced and they broke up with me a few days later. I've never had someone generally like me or even love me. Maybe I am not attractive enough or its my attitude.
So a few weeks ago I meet this girl, Afrikaans girl so there is the language and culture thing,I understand a little afrikaans and speak it a little. Shes 23 and shes been engaged twice, both guys cheated on her and I am sure the last one beat her.
We live far from each other about an hour and a bit but its nothing major. Things where going nicely, I was confident I sang to her on the phone,I spoke afrikaans to her because she thought it was cute and was really nice to her. She said I am really sweet and she doesn't know anyone like me.
Then I ask if she wants to see me sometime she agrees. But as I am on my way she said well my dad is going to be here. So I got there I was as nervous as hell I got a twitch on my cheek. But we talked a lot no awkward silence I met her dad he stared me down but I didn't back down.
I said to her I really like you she blushed and smiled laughed at my dumb jokes and kept eye contact.
As I leave she looks into my eyes and says I really really like you and I want to spend more time with you. You a really nice guy. Shed send pics of herself like look at my new hair color or I fell into the pool. Things were going nicely then bam I said I'm interested in you and I want something more than friendship. She said we just friends for now and I am not ready for a relationship. But she still chatted like if I was something more and when we got really close she backed off and barely talked to me said it isn't me she doesn't want to chat now.
She suffers from depression so maybe its that.
Warning flags. I woman I know said just keep being nice to her and be there for her. Now this weekend she met some guy. I asked if he is good looking and she had a laughing face and said he is good looking I won't lie. So I said Well if you like him I won't stop you,then she just replied with hahahaha.
Worst part is I love her and I think she likes this guy. I know having someone isn't everything but when all your friends are married or in a serious relationship no one really has the time to do things with.
I am really sorry for this all over the place post. I just don't know what to do.