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My Social Problem
#1
Hi All!

I have this social problem that I don't wanna go out, don't wanna socialise but I'm not scared to do so, just have no desire. I don't contact any of my family or join in. I have turned down a few family get togethers because of it. Just have no desire. I put it down to anxiety and depression. Don't know.

Subsequently I have no friends and single. I have a part time job at least but wonder how can I go about finding out what's wrong with me? What is wrong with me? life sucks right now.

Thanks!
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#2
Hey. 🌸
Sorry to hear about your troubles. 
Do you have things in your life that you have a desire to do?
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#3
(09-08-2019, 07:12 AM)MissBehave Wrote: Hey. 🌸
Sorry to hear about your troubles. 
Do you have things in your life that you have a desire to do?

I wanna be a songwriter but feel I don't have the connections.
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#4
Maybe the act of writing songs could benefit you in other ways.
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#5
I would try to focus on finding stuff that helps with find meaning and desire for life. Try out new things and see what you find on that journey. 
Do you have a reason for not being that interested in your family? Like, do you feel it’s easier this way?
Being social is very important so I would try to do that at least a little bit and being locked away from the world is most likely going to making the depression worse. 
I hope it gets easier for you.
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#6
I would say you have two real options.

1. Fight the desire to not go out, go out anyway and try to have a good time until it gets easier and you want to go out again. Or maybe even just invite some people to your place to start off a little easier.

or...

2. Sit at home in your misery and get worse.
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#7
Broken_Soul, the others above have given good responses.  Allow me to elaborate.

Life is about relationships - loving God and loving others.  If you don't get the first part down, it's easy to fail on the second part.  I don't think forcing yourself to go out or socialize with family will change your heart.  You need to do that first, then the desire for people interaction will follow.

Would you like to get started with something specific to get your life on a better track?  How about 75 minutes of your quiet time to watch this excellent sermon that's applicable to you.  It'd be a good start I recommend.


https://youtu.be/d5xyYI9tNV8
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(09-08-2019, 06:44 AM)Broken_Soul Wrote: Hi All!

I have this social problem that I don't wanna go out, don't wanna socialise but I'm not scared to do so, just have no desire. I don't contact any of my family or join in. I have turned down a few family get togethers because of it. Just have no desire. I put it down to anxiety and depression. Don't know.

Subsequently I have no friends and single. I have a part time job at least but wonder how can I go about finding out what's wrong with me? What is wrong with me? life sucks right now.

Thanks!

Well seems you are just very introverted.
Are you sure your depression and anxiety stem from isolating yourself? How do you know they are connected?
Or maybe you have a paradox..
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