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Anyone else hate family gatherings?
#11
Our "family gatherings" usually consist of my mother and myself.

Thanksgiving and Christmas usually revolves around the following two things:

1) Me, telling her not to cook a lot of stuff and overexert herself

2) Her not listening to me and doing it anyway (and refusing my help)

If there is anyone that has entirely too much access to the food network, it's my mom. Still, she cooks better than most healthy people and seems to enjoy it. I can't judge too harshly.
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#12
Haha I love moms like that...they feel that their sole job on holidays is to generate a feast to feed 100 people. Big Grin

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#13
For me, family gatherings aren't that great either. During holidays my family and relatives all gather and we go out to eat, and when I see my cousins it's like they try to be completely strangers on purpose: they don't try to talk to me, they don't say hi, they basically pretend I'm not there. So I always dread the the time after dinner when the little ones hangout with the little ones and the adults with adults, I always end up sitting the couch and watching some boring tv show for 3 hours to consume the rest of my "family time", while my cousins go hang out with their closer ones. But luckily, that mostly applies only to my female cousins around my age, I occasionally get to play with my younger cousins (more like babysitting), and talk to a few of my male cousins. I swear sometimes that my female cousins think I'm going to go up to them and slap with an incestuous act or something. So in the end, I never really get to feel that "family bonding" time during holiday gatherings.
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#14
i like my family and spending time with them reminds me i am nuts for a reason.
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#15
(12-24-2009, 04:58 PM)Badjedidude Wrote: Haha I love moms like that...they feel that their sole job on holidays is to generate a feast to feed 100 people. Big Grin

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I'm going over there later today. If anyone wants leftover ham or caserole, let me know.

I'll buy an extra roll of foil. :/
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#16
Lol you'd hafta send it through the mail...and it would just explode on me when I opened it. (Cakes do that, ya know. Next time you want to prank someone, send them a cake through the mail! Toungue)

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#17
(12-24-2009, 06:28 PM)*Sigh* Wrote: I always end up sitting the couch and watching some boring tv show for 3 hours to consume the rest of my "family time", while my cousins go hang out with their closer ones.

Wow, this is exactly what happens to me... I feel so destroyed just sitting there like a bumb watching television while everyone is laughing it up.
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#18
I think it really depends on the kind of family you have. If your relatives are truly good people, then it's worth making the effort to interact with them! You can even practice your social skills the day before by meeting with friends or doing something where you'll have to interact with people. Also, if you're unsure of your conversational skills, maybe you can give them extra-thoughtful gifts, inlcuding things you made yourself, like home-made greeting cards, cookies, little stories, etc. All good people appreciate attention and thoughfulness.

The problem with my family (and many families out there) is that the family members are not good people. My aunts and uncles have ACTUALLY betrayed my parents in very serious situations... and what do you do after that? Either sever all ties with them (which my mom did with her sisters), or continue socializing like nothing happened (which my dad is doing with his brother). I'm sick of all of them - I prefer to just take care of my parents and avoid the rest of the family.

Big Christmas Hugs to everyone!!! (((HUG))) (((HUG))) (((HUG))) Merry Christmas!
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#19
I wouldn't say I hate family gatherings but I don't enjoy them. I love seeing my immediate family(parents, siblings, nieces & nephews) but all my aunts, uncles and cousins.....not so much. We were never close growing up. I've only seen my cousins once every year. Just recently, for some strange reason my uncles and aunts have been holding more holiday gatherings thru the year. Maybe it's with only good intentions and the fact everyone is getting older and they want to start a new tradition of seeing the WHOLE family more often but it just feels like it's imposing on my time. Not that I have a whole lot to do but the fact I feel obligated to go when I really don't want to. I end up feeling guilty for not going or wanting to go so I force myself to make an attempt to try to get to know my extended family but it's always awkward.
I never spoke to my cousins growing up, I don't know a thing about them. My cousins were all close growing up except for me. I wish I knew what to do or say in these situations. I can only make up so many excuses. I'm sure they have caught on by now and think I'm a snob that doesn't want to spend "quality" time with my family. I just don't enjoy it and no one speaks to me anyway even if I initiate some type of conversation. I end up feeling like an outsider. Not that I expect my cousins to understand, they all had each other growing up so they enjoy these gatherings. While I just bum on the sofa like all the rest of the gatherings.
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#20
Yes, I hate them. So stressful, depressing and lonely. But my family doesn't really care if I'm around, I just get left out, so I avoid going now.
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