dan_in_stoke
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Hi,
Been on here a few years but hardly posted. Sorry.
I felt quite optimistic at the start of the year (strangely) but things have gone down hill since my birthday in early February....
...I got 3 birthday cards....1 late, all from my immediate family.
Now I've got this deep dark feeling life is passing me by, I'm never going to meet anyone (relationship wise) and will live alone.
Life
I'm 35, still living with parents for a number of reasons, from financial to medical.
I am naturally quite, shy, reserved and lack social experience and my parents are socialisers (don't go out to pubs, clubs, restaurants etc) so I've never been exposed to that “normal” life.
I have a large extended family, with multiple aunties and uncles.
All my cousins (mostly younger) now are at the age where they have left home,
have or had long term relationships and now have families of there own.
So I'm the odd one out and every time I see a relative they all ways a when question.
When will you move out ?
When will you get a girlfriend /wife ?
When will you have kids ?
No friends.
Up until I was in my teens I had a happy childhood, friends, fun etc.
That changed as I was bullied from 15 – 19 (high school and college)
so I shut down, split or shut out friends and from then on I've not let anyone in.
My shy and reserved nature was magnified because of it as a result I never experienced all the
“normal” teenage things, never socialised, no nightclubs, holidays away etc.
Find it difficult to open up.
Work
I work in digital media and for a long time worked freelance, on my own.
I recently joined a studio with 5 other guys. They range from mid twenties to early 50's.
I get on fairly well but we don't socialise outside of work as often work long hours and they all have long term partners, kids etc....so once again I'm the “odd one” out and I've done my best to deflect
all the questions “why don't I have a girlfriend or kids?” etc
Relationships
I feel ashamed I've never had one.
Never been close to having one.
Had the high school crush on someone but because of the bullies and my shyness never dared do anything about it.
During college I didn't socialise so never had the opportunity to meet anyone.
That’s been the way ever since.
I joined dating websites, free ones and subscription ones but despite sending numerous introductions I never got any replies or anyone showing any interest.
Being 35 and never had a relationship, appears to be a big red flag stay away.
Been on here a few years but hardly posted. Sorry.
I felt quite optimistic at the start of the year (strangely) but things have gone down hill since my birthday in early February....
...I got 3 birthday cards....1 late, all from my immediate family.
Now I've got this deep dark feeling life is passing me by, I'm never going to meet anyone (relationship wise) and will live alone.
Life
I'm 35, still living with parents for a number of reasons, from financial to medical.
I am naturally quite, shy, reserved and lack social experience and my parents are socialisers (don't go out to pubs, clubs, restaurants etc) so I've never been exposed to that “normal” life.
I have a large extended family, with multiple aunties and uncles.
All my cousins (mostly younger) now are at the age where they have left home,
have or had long term relationships and now have families of there own.
So I'm the odd one out and every time I see a relative they all ways a when question.
When will you move out ?
When will you get a girlfriend /wife ?
When will you have kids ?
No friends.
Up until I was in my teens I had a happy childhood, friends, fun etc.
That changed as I was bullied from 15 – 19 (high school and college)
so I shut down, split or shut out friends and from then on I've not let anyone in.
My shy and reserved nature was magnified because of it as a result I never experienced all the
“normal” teenage things, never socialised, no nightclubs, holidays away etc.
Find it difficult to open up.
Work
I work in digital media and for a long time worked freelance, on my own.
I recently joined a studio with 5 other guys. They range from mid twenties to early 50's.
I get on fairly well but we don't socialise outside of work as often work long hours and they all have long term partners, kids etc....so once again I'm the “odd one” out and I've done my best to deflect
all the questions “why don't I have a girlfriend or kids?” etc
Relationships
I feel ashamed I've never had one.
Never been close to having one.
Had the high school crush on someone but because of the bullies and my shyness never dared do anything about it.
During college I didn't socialise so never had the opportunity to meet anyone.
That’s been the way ever since.
I joined dating websites, free ones and subscription ones but despite sending numerous introductions I never got any replies or anyone showing any interest.
Being 35 and never had a relationship, appears to be a big red flag stay away.