Clandestine
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For past ten years of my life I have been alone. Ever since I was six years old I have had problems making friends. I can vividly remember my first day of the first grade.There was a girl holding the door for everyone in line and as each student passed through the door the young girl pointed at each individual and said " I like you, I don't know you, I like you". I was the last person in line and when she pointed at me she immediately said "I don't like you". I could not believe that this girl had said that to me, she did not know me and clearly had no premise upon which to build her hatred. Years later I realized that it was due to my uncontrollable eczema on my face. After that I was blacklisted as the kid with eczema that everyone thought of as a target for teasing. One day a kid came up to me a gave me a piece of candy for lunch because he claimed he did not want it. I ate the candy because it happened to be my favorite flavor. Minutes later the kid and his friends came up to me laughing and giggling. He asked me had I eaten the candy, and I lied and said no out of fear. To which he replied " Good, because I coughed on it". I got sick several days after that.
School did not get any better after that. In the fifth grade I tried to make my teachers aware of my inability to make friends through pictures but they only ignored them. And middle school, was the worst. Kids verbally and physically excoriated me every single day for no particular reason. And no matter how hard I tried to fit in or work through my problems with the counselor nothing seemed to work and no one seemed to care. When I got high school I thought that I reinvent myself and finally make friends but kids just pushed me away in disgust. Their groups had already been formed. In the 10th grade my mother signed me up for Big Brothers and Big Sisters program so that I could have good mentors in my life. They placed me with a 26 year old young engineer at General Electric. She was tons of fun and I we had a lot in common when it came to books and films. That was the first time that I began to realize that my commonalities lied with older people. Anyway, her boyfriend moved in with her and afterwards she stopped calling. I was left alone for the rest of my high school years.
Sure, I spoke to people but I was never able to say the right thing or find commonalities. I hung out with one person out of the four years I was in high school and not until recently have gotten closer since her friends have abandoned her. Which make me wonder if she truly my friend. Not to mention the fact that she has a boyfriend that is the apple of her eye. This year I met a friend from NYC, 24 years- old, who I also had tons in common with and came to see her as a true friend that wanted to be my friend as badly as I wanted to be hers, Until one day she randomly abandoned me and went back to NYC unannounced. I have been in a perennial state of sporadic depression ever since then, and have deluded myself into believing that someday we can friends again. My "friend" Jen ,who I came closer to after my previous "friend" abandoned ,me tried very hard to comfort me and be a "true friend". She is 20 years-old going on 21 and claims to be a true friend but I can't trust her and a part of me doesn't want to be her friend. I am completely lost.
School did not get any better after that. In the fifth grade I tried to make my teachers aware of my inability to make friends through pictures but they only ignored them. And middle school, was the worst. Kids verbally and physically excoriated me every single day for no particular reason. And no matter how hard I tried to fit in or work through my problems with the counselor nothing seemed to work and no one seemed to care. When I got high school I thought that I reinvent myself and finally make friends but kids just pushed me away in disgust. Their groups had already been formed. In the 10th grade my mother signed me up for Big Brothers and Big Sisters program so that I could have good mentors in my life. They placed me with a 26 year old young engineer at General Electric. She was tons of fun and I we had a lot in common when it came to books and films. That was the first time that I began to realize that my commonalities lied with older people. Anyway, her boyfriend moved in with her and afterwards she stopped calling. I was left alone for the rest of my high school years.
Sure, I spoke to people but I was never able to say the right thing or find commonalities. I hung out with one person out of the four years I was in high school and not until recently have gotten closer since her friends have abandoned her. Which make me wonder if she truly my friend. Not to mention the fact that she has a boyfriend that is the apple of her eye. This year I met a friend from NYC, 24 years- old, who I also had tons in common with and came to see her as a true friend that wanted to be my friend as badly as I wanted to be hers, Until one day she randomly abandoned me and went back to NYC unannounced. I have been in a perennial state of sporadic depression ever since then, and have deluded myself into believing that someday we can friends again. My "friend" Jen ,who I came closer to after my previous "friend" abandoned ,me tried very hard to comfort me and be a "true friend". She is 20 years-old going on 21 and claims to be a true friend but I can't trust her and a part of me doesn't want to be her friend. I am completely lost.