Theglasscell seems to have a really crappy therapist.Perhaps finding another driving motivation for you would be a good thing, it allows you to place your passion and such into another place, and then things tend to fall into line. I mean nobody should be alone for life, that's not fair. Your therapist telling you to essentially turn off and ignore a VITAL AND IRREMOVABLE ASPECT OF THE HUMAN PSYCHE seems to be a little extreme, insensitive, and hurtful. She's asking you to do the impossible. Perhaps it was her way of inciting you to go out and try something more? I don't know. Finding something to drive you will often put you into a position where you are more likely to run into like-minded, similar people who are more likely to be interested in going for a relationship with you than some random person at a bar. Clubbing, etc, is literally just like casting a net into the ocean, a very small net.