FrancisTheMan said:
Hey, how's it going? I'm from the USA and didn't know they had depression in England
Sometimes when you're depressed you just spend too much time thinking about the negative things in your life, and it's not that your subconscious knows about exactly how you're feeling but it does know that you're focusing a lot of TIME feeling that way. You may not have suicidal thoughts but that is but one of the symptoms of depression.
It may sound hard but if you spend a lot of time in your house, try to get out. Find something to do anywhere. There are infinitely many possibilities of things to do and they're out there for you. Do you have transportation? Drive somewhere and explore. Try different restaurants. Do you drink alcohol? Try different pubs. Go shopping. Read a book or magazine in the park. Listen to music. Learn something new about things you're interested in. Do you have a job? Jobs take a lot of time out of the day if you need something to do and if you don't spend a lot of money on things when you have the job you can save it up for something.
At the very least enjoy the good weather outside. Try to enjoy the subtle things in life. If you're not trying to live a fast life at least enjoy a peaceful one.
-Frank
Thanks again everyone.
Yeah I know, I find it hard to filter out all the bad stuff a lot of the time. I go from high to low so quickly.
I have been getting out of the house more lately by playing tennis but whenever I get home, the negatives set in almost instantly.
I am also trying to explore more and go to different places and do different things but with the small group of friends that I do have being in relationships, they are reluctant to going out etc.
I just want to briefly explain my story quickly if thats ok.
A few years ago I turned into a bit of a tearaway and went through the phase in my life like I'm sure everyone does, where you go out a lot and drink etc. Well, I took it a step further and moved to Ibiza for 6 months. While I was there I drank to excess took drugs and had far too many one night stands. I felt no care for myself or anyone else and to be totally honest, I was a complete *******. Looking back, it was like I was possessed. This went on for months and months until one day I met a girl that I genuinely really liked. I could tell from the moment that I met her. From that moment on, I felt myself again. I felt peaceful. It was like she was my angel.
The night that we met, I asked if we could meet up the next day. She was looking for a job on the island and I said that I would help her. Surprisingly, the next day she turned up where we had agreed to meet.
To cut an already long story short, we both moved back to England and ended up going out for a few years until recently. I was totally honest with her about how I had acted and all of the terrible things that I had done before we had met, as I thought that being honest was the best thing to do. Obviously, she was less than impressed but somehow saw past everything.
Everything had been going well considering my confessions. This was until she started college last year. Since then there was a massive change in her. She became less interested in me and even started speaking and texting another guy who she worked with. She decided she didn't want to be with me. I could tell something was not right and she denied speaking with anyone else etc. Eventually she was honest with me and told me that she had been speaking to someone else.
I forgave her and we got back together again. I helped her out through college with money and with any work she needed a hand with and all was good.
A few months ago she started a new job. Her dream job. Since then, she has changed again and says she doesn't know what she wants...
What the hell do I do and how do I stop feeling this way?
Sorry about the long post and the long story. It feels good to get it all out. Hardly anyone knows about my situation, not even my parents. I'm too ashamed to tell them.
annik said:
My Lounge Act said:
Thanks for your warm welcomes guys.
Yeah I find the hardest thing is getting to sleep at night due to thoughts going around my head.
Does anyone else suffer from this? If so, what things do you find that help?
I totally have the same problem. I tend to leave the tv on or have dvds or films playing on the computer. Be prepared to learn large portions of the script though. I know scarily long chunks of The Great Escape because of this! Those learning tapes must really work!
Hey,
I have tried doing all of the above but if I'm watching or reading something, my mind strays so easily.
Its hard trying to sleep with things on your mind. Then when you look at the clock its just getting later and later, and getting closer to the time that you have to get up for work. Its a truly horrible feeling.
