GoingInsane
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I feel as though my life is at a complete halt now. I see no way of doing anything about it. Last year was good because I could interact with like-minded people which gave me potential to meet up and hang out with them when I had my part-time job. Although I was reluctant to suggest anything with them, I loved their company and now I'm in the situation I'm in I wish I did suggest something.
Since I've had to quit my part time job at the end of last year to do my full time job, I'm now surrounded by people who already have healthy social lives and don't see me as someone who could integrate as they have far more superior social skills. One problem I have is the people I now work with have different interests to myself, and a sense of humor which is different to my own.
I have more life keys this year like a driving license and a full time job to earn enough money to buy bigger and better things, but there is no opportunities to mix with like-minded people and I'm now stuck wondering when the next available opportunity may be. Trying to interact with people on a different wave length to your own can be daunting. I had a much healthier social network last year and I was more confident with myself and definately more sociable. Now this year is just depressing, haven't been invited out anywhere, done anything exciting apart from maybe gone out with my family a few times which can get boring.
I'm missing out on so much and the thought of it hurts. I have a few issues with my social skills that I'm trying to fix, like smile more and listen harder to what other people are saying, and engage more conversation without looking bored and down, but as my depression worsens, these flaws become even harder to fix.
Friday and Saturday nights can be the most painful, thinking about all those people who have loads of friends and meeting girls having a great time, can depress me to the point where I just want to top myself.
I have no idea why I'm here, it's just so meaningless and it always has been but this year has been one of the worst years of my life. 2008 and 7 had more fun times. From the end of last year to now it's just been a downward spiral. I'm struggling to do my job properly because I'm so depressed the whole time. I question my job security. I constantly feel a struggle to breathe like there is a tightness in my lungs and wanting to cry. Having to face customers is daunting because they expect you to be smiley, polite and helpful but all you want to help is yourself. Although I try and please customers the best I can, it still isn't enough for a lot of them.
I'm looked upon as being slow, unintelligent, rude, miserable, quiet and clumsy but it's not how I really am, it's just the depression is taking over and bringing me down to the point where I want to die. I talk about it with my parents and the reply I get is "you have got a lot going for you, you're a good looking boy" and hearing that makes me angry because they all know there's NOTHING going for me.
How the fresia do I change it, I cant stop thinking about the past and all the wrong choices I've made, I just clearly haven't played my cards right and all the wrong moves from the past are now affecting the future.
I also get the feeling of being trapped in time or something, and there being no change in life and there is no possible way of it changing. I'm 19, have I really got to live another 10, 20, 30, 40 or whatever years being in the same situation... what the fresia do I do?
Whenever I have made the effort to change things in my life, it always backfires somehow or goes disastrously wrong.
There is something about 2009 (I know it's only a year, but I feel each year has either a good or a bad feel about it and this one has a bad one)
Just thought I'd share abit about my issues.
Anyone is the same boat?
Since I've had to quit my part time job at the end of last year to do my full time job, I'm now surrounded by people who already have healthy social lives and don't see me as someone who could integrate as they have far more superior social skills. One problem I have is the people I now work with have different interests to myself, and a sense of humor which is different to my own.
I have more life keys this year like a driving license and a full time job to earn enough money to buy bigger and better things, but there is no opportunities to mix with like-minded people and I'm now stuck wondering when the next available opportunity may be. Trying to interact with people on a different wave length to your own can be daunting. I had a much healthier social network last year and I was more confident with myself and definately more sociable. Now this year is just depressing, haven't been invited out anywhere, done anything exciting apart from maybe gone out with my family a few times which can get boring.
I'm missing out on so much and the thought of it hurts. I have a few issues with my social skills that I'm trying to fix, like smile more and listen harder to what other people are saying, and engage more conversation without looking bored and down, but as my depression worsens, these flaws become even harder to fix.
Friday and Saturday nights can be the most painful, thinking about all those people who have loads of friends and meeting girls having a great time, can depress me to the point where I just want to top myself.
I have no idea why I'm here, it's just so meaningless and it always has been but this year has been one of the worst years of my life. 2008 and 7 had more fun times. From the end of last year to now it's just been a downward spiral. I'm struggling to do my job properly because I'm so depressed the whole time. I question my job security. I constantly feel a struggle to breathe like there is a tightness in my lungs and wanting to cry. Having to face customers is daunting because they expect you to be smiley, polite and helpful but all you want to help is yourself. Although I try and please customers the best I can, it still isn't enough for a lot of them.
I'm looked upon as being slow, unintelligent, rude, miserable, quiet and clumsy but it's not how I really am, it's just the depression is taking over and bringing me down to the point where I want to die. I talk about it with my parents and the reply I get is "you have got a lot going for you, you're a good looking boy" and hearing that makes me angry because they all know there's NOTHING going for me.
How the fresia do I change it, I cant stop thinking about the past and all the wrong choices I've made, I just clearly haven't played my cards right and all the wrong moves from the past are now affecting the future.
I also get the feeling of being trapped in time or something, and there being no change in life and there is no possible way of it changing. I'm 19, have I really got to live another 10, 20, 30, 40 or whatever years being in the same situation... what the fresia do I do?
Whenever I have made the effort to change things in my life, it always backfires somehow or goes disastrously wrong.
There is something about 2009 (I know it's only a year, but I feel each year has either a good or a bad feel about it and this one has a bad one)
Just thought I'd share abit about my issues.
Anyone is the same boat?