Why do I keep writing all these stories here? Sorry...
Here goes the other only moral support that I had for the last year and a half, this really funny, smart guy, that I would see only socially or for coffee dates to avoid complications because he is attached and just had a baby. He was very supportive on many things, helpful with practical stuff, and a part of me always wondered why he did it. He seemed to honestly like me, we have lots of things in common, and he seems to be a bit in a rut with his wife but still caring about her, so I thought our friendship could be some harmless entertainment for him, very innocent, I avoided talking about personal things, but I cared about him, he was my paragon for a honest guy, I was hoping to find someone like him.
Instead, after a particularly nice meeting in an outdoors cafe, when we parted instead of you know, hugging, kissing on the cheeks etc he tried to kiss me on the mouth, adding this is how friends part in (****) (this part of the world). (I refused it, of course).
Now, I asked to three different local people about this local usage, and from all the three of them I got these strong belly laughs because they never heard of it, so not only I feel my boundaries have been violated, but also that I was played for a fool.
I find this very depressing, especially because in this period of my life I am not very attractive (not that I have ever been much, but it doesn't matter), I got a lot of weight, wearing only unflattering clothes etc, and I was hoping that this would at least weed out the guys who were only interested in one thing, but apparently it is not enough.
He was technically a good friend, the only one who helped me in some difficult situations, with moves etc, and I feel bad from cutting him out from my life, but I don't know what was the worst, he making something like a pass at me or him insisting in the lie that it is common usage. I wanted to post this in the JohnD thread, but found that closed, because it's really the same story, only on the other side. Why so many men are just after one thing?
Here goes the other only moral support that I had for the last year and a half, this really funny, smart guy, that I would see only socially or for coffee dates to avoid complications because he is attached and just had a baby. He was very supportive on many things, helpful with practical stuff, and a part of me always wondered why he did it. He seemed to honestly like me, we have lots of things in common, and he seems to be a bit in a rut with his wife but still caring about her, so I thought our friendship could be some harmless entertainment for him, very innocent, I avoided talking about personal things, but I cared about him, he was my paragon for a honest guy, I was hoping to find someone like him.
Instead, after a particularly nice meeting in an outdoors cafe, when we parted instead of you know, hugging, kissing on the cheeks etc he tried to kiss me on the mouth, adding this is how friends part in (****) (this part of the world). (I refused it, of course).
Now, I asked to three different local people about this local usage, and from all the three of them I got these strong belly laughs because they never heard of it, so not only I feel my boundaries have been violated, but also that I was played for a fool.
I find this very depressing, especially because in this period of my life I am not very attractive (not that I have ever been much, but it doesn't matter), I got a lot of weight, wearing only unflattering clothes etc, and I was hoping that this would at least weed out the guys who were only interested in one thing, but apparently it is not enough.
He was technically a good friend, the only one who helped me in some difficult situations, with moves etc, and I feel bad from cutting him out from my life, but I don't know what was the worst, he making something like a pass at me or him insisting in the lie that it is common usage. I wanted to post this in the JohnD thread, but found that closed, because it's really the same story, only on the other side. Why so many men are just after one thing?